DS1 (16) has HFASD, plus teenage hormones plus living in a pandemic. He's very depressed. Has always been, tbh, a difficult kid but so tough since the summer. He's so up and down I can't keep track. I think we're heading for a miserable Xmas. I know it's not his fault but he's doing all the wrong things for himself and none of the sensible things. If we dare cross him, we get verbal - and sometimes - physical abuse. He was cheerful a couple of days ago, and went out to sit in the park with a friend, then was fine yesterday until we had a silly argument over PS4 and he's been absolutely horrific since then. Went out for a long walk last night, came home and sat in bed with his laptop until we took it off him at midnight (our rules). Still in bed now at 1 pm. I went in about half an hour ago to gingerly suggest he gets up and eats something and he told me to go away. I guess I just need to leave him to it, or he'll get violent. I'm so miserable too - trying to put on a brave face for my DS2 (14) but I'm anxious and feel sick.
DS is having counselling at school, we have a family wellbeing practioner, he's on the waiting list for CAMHS. We've suggested web chats with help organisations etc but can't force him to do anything.
God, it's tough ... I know there's nothing really anyone can advise but I feel awful.