Son goes inside some very unsavoury peoples houses

[Lee2628]

Hi all a few days ago I posted about my older son drawing out £180 every month his 17 and I haven’t had the gut to ask about it as I shouldn’t of been snooping around but today I recently found out he hangs around with a heroine addict THATS OLDER THEN ME I found this out through a friend now I don’t think he’d be using heroine but how can I stop him going to these peoples houses at 17

My brother has been an on/off heroin addict for near on 30 years. With respect, I dont think a bbc podcast is going to teach me anything that he, his friends, the rehabilitation services and outreach charities havent at this point. And my "immense privilege " includes trawling doss houses, dealers houses, squats and the streets trying to find him when he asks for help, being threatened by dealers when he owes money, being stolen from, sitting by his bedside in ICU, prison visiting - oh an giving evidence against him in court when he beat up and robbed our frail and demented father.

The only way to deal with this is to ask him. And see what his answer is. He may have signs he may not. But if you’ve been given info he is attending the houses of these kind of people I would ask him why he’s going there and see what he says

Whilst I'm sorry to hear about your brother's addiction and the impact it has had on your father and you, it is a shame you have not allowed your experience to make you more compassionate. Of course there are many ways to become involved in addictive cycles including being injected by force, abuse, medical mismanagement and trauma. I don't want to derail OPs thread any further so will unfollow it now.

@PurpleFrames

Whilst I'm sorry to hear about your brother's addiction and the impact it has had on your father and you, it is a shame you have not allowed your experience to make you more compassionate. Of course there are many ways to become involved in addictive cycles including being injected by force, abuse, medical mismanagement and trauma. I don't want to derail OPs thread any further so will unfollow it now.

More compassionate? How do you get more compassionate than the things she listed she has already been through with him?