Anyone come out the other side of parenting an awful teen?

[Devonchills]

Posted many times, awful teenager here. Rude, won't talk to us, disrespectful etc etc.

I just need to hear some positive stories of teens who've become nice people again.

I miss my little boy as he used to be, I long for him to just give me a hug. He can't bare to be in the same room as me at the moment!

Do you still go and see him before bedtime? Sometimes l get sneaky hugs then.

Haha no chance, he's 17.
He won't even talk to me, about anything!

Mine wasn’t particularly difficult. But he was kidnapped by aliens until about 17.

They do come back though.

I hear you OP. I have just had a tow with 15 year old dd because I took her phone off her as agreed on a school night as otherwise she stays up all night. She was belligerent, rude and quite frankly a total bitch. Awful.

She stays in her room all the time so also avoids us.

Yes mine is in his room most of the time too. I dream of having a house with a annex attached that he could live in! (or me for that matter)

My 14 year old dd woke me up this morning about some trauma in tears.

I sorted it out. She then told me to get out of the kitchen as l was ‘stressing her out’. Bloody charming.

My mother. I was utterly vile and we are great now. I had to leave home for it to work.

My ds at 15 was appalling. So much better now. Took therapy for him, me nearly dying-all quite extreme, but he’s much better now!

Yes mine was of the scale extreme due to ADHD, he had to leave home at 18. Few years later we have a great relationship although tbh some of the past issues are hard to get past ( you would understand if you knew what those were), he still has his moments though. Unfortunately some of the crazy stuff he got involved with as a teenager has come back to affect him now, even though we spent years and much heartache and money trying to mitigate the worst of it. I have no advice sorry.

It's so hard isn't it.
I feel like I've read all the books, taken all the advice and done everything I possibly can to make our relationship better.
I suppose I just feel like giving up with him, he is utterly vile to me and my husband sometimes.
I feel like it's never going to end, and he is going to be like this forever.

Mine was a nightmare from around 14 and a half , about a week before her 17th she switched into a human , pretty much overnight. Don’t get me wrong she still has moments every now and then but , don’t we all??
Whatever you do, don’t give up, be there ready for when they need you , is very hard but there’s definitely light at the end of the tunnel.