Friend asked out a boy for DD without DDs permission.

[Cutekittens]

I’m absolutely fuming! 😡
DD got in the car all upset today because one of her friends asked a boy (who DD is good friends with) out for her without her permission

She said that in Geography she sit right at the front and all she could hear all lesson was “awwww [boys name here] you broke her heart. Loookk she is crying!!!(when it is clear that she wasn’t)”
I don’t think the class understood that [girls name here] asked him out for her instead.
She made friends with this boy in one of her classes, but it took time as she is very cautious making friends and has a good sense of knowledge of who is and is not a good friend.
DD was not even there “at the scene” that day. She was with another friend trying to get glitter off her face (as she was using this in the lesson before)

She hates the class she is in now and she made loads of friends in another class, but now cannot see them so she has to stay in the one she is now.

She is very quiet and shy and get embarrassed very easily!
She is distraught by what happened because she think she has lost loads of friends and she hates being in centre of attention!

She is 13 (if this helps)

I don’t know what to do
She is refusing to go into school and is just crying all day!

Any advice?

TIA

So Amy is your DD, and Betty is her friend?
Betty said to Zack 'Amy wants to go out with you', Zack said 'No way' and Amy is now upset and embarrassed?

She just needs to tell Christina she didn't ask Betty to do it and please put the word round.

Wondering where you are though due to Day & time of posting it looks like a Saturday morning here in UK.

Unfortunately kids do stupid stuff like this, the best thing to do is teach your DD not to care about what everyone thinks. Anyone who is really her friend won’t stop being friends with her because of this, so it’s a good way for her to gauge the friendships she should be putting her time and energy in to.

Something quite similar happened to me recently! That’s right, not to my children, but to me!
Last years Christmas do the whole office hired out a section of the local pub. Was chatting to a bloke I hadn’t really spoken to before because we were seated at the same table, was mainly small talk really but he was lovely. One lady took it upon herself to tell the entire office I’d been crushing on him for ages. I was mortified!
The longer your DD stays off school the worse it’ll be, she needs to go in and get it over with. Within a day or two she will already feel much better, but I do feel for her bless her.

Thank you so much!

@fairynick
Wow! How did you end all of this!
I think you are right. The longer she is off school, the worse it will be.

@TriflePudding
Yes
Thank you!

@TeenPlusTwenties
I am in the UK
It is Saturday morning.
The scenario you used was correct, but Betty went round telling the class that Amy asked Zack out when she did not.

These things can seem huge when you're 13. Your DD needs to grow a slightly thicker skin and learn how to deflect this type of tiresome behaviour from 'friends' - she needs to go to school and just ignore it and get on with her work. If she's friends with this boy she can simply say something like 'what was that all about the other day?'
Least said, soonest mended. But, she does need to get a grip on being quite so easily upset as unfortunately girls like the 'friend' will use that to tease her further.
I have a DD the same age, so know what you mean. Resilience is helpful but do be alert to normal teasing tipping over to bullying. My DD had to move seats to get away from relentless'teasing' from a couple of kids, but it does seem to have settled down now. You have my sympathies.

@Beamur
Thank you so much
Glad that your DD is ok.