Violent behaviour

[starkstaringmad]

My DS (17) and I had a massive quarrel yesterday and I'm still shocked and sick at heart. He was furious with me for not allowing his longtime GF to stay over last night (she's always here and I'm tired of it) so we rowed. So angry was he that he screamed "you fucking bitch, fuck you" in my face. He's massive, well over 6ft and built like an ox. I was so shocked and surprised that my hand shot out and I slapped his cheek. Not hard but still.

Now before you all start berating me, I KNOW better than to hit anyone, and certainly not my child. I KNOW it's abuse and I should probably be locked up for it. If it comes to that, I'll go quietly. I feel so terrible for slapping him.

I should also not be posting this on here but I'm distraught and have no one in RL that I can talk to about this.

It's not surprising you felt the need to defend yourself and you showed him that he cannot use his size to intimidate. What happened after you slapped him?

After I slapped him I apologised. What else could I do?

Sometimes our teenagers can be sp cheeky.
Handheld to you
I got many a slap grown up done me no harm and it wasn't with a hand.

Yes, my mother slapped me but it doesn't make it right.

How could he have shouted such abuse at me? I know he's angry about so many things and has been diagnosed with depression and GAD, ADHD too. But to call me a fucking bitch because I refused to let his girlfriend stay is too much.

I don't know what to do. And I'm still furious with him, although I keep it inside.

Have use talked about it together
I'm not saying it's ok but he was in the wrong too

I get called a bitch too when I wont let dd out during covid19. I have let her out a few times but put the foot down at going to house parties.
Tell him he hae to take turns with the girlfriend between houses.