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Dd quit college what now?!

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Maisymooster · 12/11/2020 08:46

16yr old started a tourism course end Sep. Has only attended 3 days in college as 1 day per week, rest online which is ridiculously easy and boring which unmotivated her then 1 of tutors tested positive so no more attendance at all throughout the whole month of October. Cue now she's completely lost interest, refused to do any more work and 2 weeks ago told them she no longer wanted to do it.
She was offered a trial session on a cooking course but hated that. They've suggested a re-engagement programme but she also refuses to do that and I'm at my wits end! She's suggested a hair and beauty course as a friend is doing that but she's missed 2 months of it and they've not yet confirmed if there's a place anyway.
She works 10 hrs a week in a takeaway place but I'm worried for the future and how this gap will affect her and look to prospective employers. She's showing some interest in an apprenticeship but truthfully I honestly don't know if she will focus and actually get one. She suffers with her mental health and lockdown affected her badly. She wanted to go to college and be able to meet lots of friends and obviously that hasnt happened at all. Anyone else in the same boat and does anyone have any suggestions?

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FippertyGibbett · 12/11/2020 08:48

What help is she having with her mental health ?

Parsley1234 · 12/11/2020 08:56

Bless your daughter @Maisymooster it’s a tough time for sure. My son is finding it hard but I have made it clear to him there is no other option than where he is as he’s away at school and is having full time lessons. I think hair and beauty is not a bad call to be honest I had salons for 20 years and it’s a really social job can make great money can fit around kids if and when and even if she decides it’s not for her she can still make £ on the side. Re her mental health most young people are so unhappy and anxious at the moment my BBC son has always been laid back and this year has been tough. I think right now it’s about lowering expectations keeping something happening and staying as positive as possible not focusing too much on the future

Parsley1234 · 12/11/2020 08:57

BBC sorry typo !

LIZS · 12/11/2020 08:57

If she can get an apprenticeship in something she is interested in great. However I suspect these may be few and far between. Can you agree she has to continue with college until then. What gcses does she have? Could she add to those? Was it a level 2 or 3 course?

AliceBlueGown · 12/11/2020 09:05

From what you have said college seems to be making good efforts to work with your daughter. I am guessing she might be level 2? Does she have her Maths and English?
I think the priority should be support with her mental health. It is really positive she has a part time job. Try and encourage the re engagement programme- unlikely to be full time so possibly just enough - gives her time to decide on her best options. Then hair and beauty next Sept. Keep her moving forward.

Maisymooster · 12/11/2020 11:32

In the past she's had several cahms referrals and also a private counselor. I don't think she's at that level of needing intervention right now but she was very down over lockdown and exam cancellation etc so it has been a struggle. She's ok in herself at the moment but just doest appear to want to do anything!
She did really well in GCSE's and is capable but it's like a choice and she's not engaging.
She wants to do no education and stick with her part time job and start again next year unless an apprenticeship comes up. But won't the year out look bad?

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