Hi, first time ever posting so hope i make sense. Really need advice on what to do. I have been split up from my daughters dad for 9 years. Our relationship was ok but didn’t end very well. For most of the 9 years however we have got on well for the sake of our daughter. We did have a court order in place to begin with but wasn’t really stuck to for long. He does see his daughter every weekend and for the most part always has done. She did go to his house and stay when she was younger but she never liked going. He didn’t really do anything with her, she was left to entertain herself for the most part. This was from the age of about 4-8. I did try and get him to put Wi-fi in for her but he never would. In the end she refused to go when she was about 9. I had an ex partner that was awful to both me and my daughter, unfortunately we both went threw hell for a good year before I was finally able to get rid of him. Which had a big impact on my daughter, she didn’t like me being away from her and wouldn’t stay over at anyone’s house, where as before she always would.So I suggested that for her benefit her dad could start having her at my house overnight at the weekend, so he could still have that time with her. He was absolutely fine with it, he slept downstairs and like I said we get on well. Wasn’t every weekend but it was most weekends. Sometime I would go out etc. I was single for a year afterwards before meeting my now partner and her dad had an on and off relationship with a woman that my daughter really liked and him staying at mine Was never effected by it. For the last year and a half I stay at my partners on a weekend while my daughters dad looked after her. It’s only ever for one night and has to fit around him working late on the doors. Which hasn’t been too bad. When my daughter was 10 ( she’s now 12 and a half ) she was diagnosed with diabetes. So she’s been even more reluctant to stay over anywhere and completely refuses to do so. She’s comfortable in her own home and feels secure. Her dad has for the past 3 months entered into a new relationship, still coming to stay on a weekend as she lives quite far away but with the odd weekends not having his daughter to spent time with her, which I completely understand. However last week he rang me and said from now on our daughter has to stay over at his, which we did get into a bit of an argument as I told him there was no way she would. I did ask her and she no she doesn’t want to. He rang her this weekend gone and asked if she wanted to go and get a puppy with them which she did on the Saturday and Sunday she went with them again to pick it up which was really good and even asked to go to his yesterday to see the puppy. She came back from his and said she had on ok time but didn’t want to go back as she didn’t like being there and his girlfriend smoked in the house which she absolutely hates. I’ve messaged him yesterday morning and asked if we could have a chat about our daughter and the way she feels as I don’t think he understands but he has ignored me. I know that she won’t want to go anymore, he did have Wi-fi put in the other day but that still isn’t changing her mind. I know she isn’t going to budge about staying or even going now. I thought about suggesting maybe if he came just every other weekend just for the night but don’t know if I’m being unreasonable. Obviously the new girlfriend won’t like him coming here which I fully get but he just won’t see his daughter anymore. So sorry for the long post but any advice would be good 😌 x