Parenting teenagers - book recommendations?

[HoxtonBonnet]

Hi, I'm having such a hard time parenting my ds14. He is pushing all the boundaries so hard and I am constantly stressed and upset.

Please can you give me your recommendations on parenting books that might help? I had the Get out of my Life one but leant it to someone (can't remember who) and now it seems to be out of print!

It’s still in print on Amazon

No advice except to say I feel your pain. It is like living with people who hate you isn’t it? If my 13 year old patronising me one more time, I feel like I’m going to kill

Thanks Redbrickwall - I'm sorry to hear you are having a tough time too. My ds is also incredibly patronising. I alternate between feeling really angry at his behaviour, disbelief that he could have such a total character transplant in the space of a year and grief that I have lost my little boy. I know that sounds melodramatic, but that's how I feel.

Not at all melodramatic, I feel EXACTLY the same. Literally word for word. I just don’t know what the answer is, I really don’t. I am wishing these years away....dreaming of my life once they’ve gone

Me too. I just read your other thread and must say that I also have fantasies about moving out. I came this close to spending the night in a Travel Lodge at the weekend. for you Redbrickwall.

How to talk so teens will listen

Thanks Embracelife!

Teenagers translated I did the course when my son was about 11 it really helped explain the bit where you make them responsible for their choices

Get out my life but first take me and Alex into town.

Great book. Explains what is happening in a teenage brain and strategies to deal with the behaviour.

I went with it and it turned out house back into a home again.

@Parsley1234 that sounds interesting - I'll look at that.

@fuzzymoon I have read that one and remember the teen boy chapter being useful. I wish I could remember who I leant it to! Will get hold of another copy.

Has any one read The Book you Wish Your Parents had Read by Philippa Perry? It looks like it might be good?

Philippa Perry has a fantastic book - it does cover all ages and only a section is devoted to teens- but her general advice and pointers really helped me.
It's called The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read (and your children will be glad you did)

Ah, sorry I didn't see your latest post so my reply looks a bit dis-jointed!

I’ve got a book called Why Every Teenager Needs A Parrot which is good. Admittedly, I have an early teen so a lot of it hasn’t been put into practice yet but the book makes a lot of sense, and what I have used has been really helpful.

Great, thanks! I will probably get the Philippa Perry book, as other people have recommended it to me. The parrot book also looks interesting!

I have had another look and realised that the original Get Out Of My Life book has been updated - so I have also ordered a copy of that. Blame My Brain also looks good. This could get expensive!

I'm now a little way into the newer edition of Get Out of My Life and it's really good. I bought the old one years ago when dd16 had just turned 13. Dd is not your average teenager and possibly has ASD so it wasn't fantastically useful. What I didn't realise then was that my sweet, loving ds would turn into a nightmare teen! So much of the book is making sense. I need to speed read it though, as I need all the knowledge now!

Ds is about to come home from school and I have just had email from school saying he has been in trouble for being rude to a teacher. I don't want to argue with him and know I need to pick my battles, but don't know how to get the message across without arguing!