am I too soft?

[2shoescreepingthroughblood]

I pick ds up from school every day. he is 15 and his school is 2 bus rides away and I am a S.A.H.M/carer so can do it.
today he had to stay late as they were doing a 6 hour block of dram coursework. so I can't pick him up as I HAVE to be here at 4 for dd. dh isn't back so just can't go and pick him up.
so he phones and gets arsey(swearing)
I think I need to get tough and read him the riot act. what do you think.

i thikn you answered your own question!!

DD3 is 15 and has dyspraxia. She always gets the bus home and has done so since she started Hidgh school. I would go and meet her if she finished late in years 7 to 9. But she now comes home on her own even if she has to stay late for anything.
At 15 your son is quite capable of getting the buses home by himself.

I pick him up as a bit of us time. dd has severe cp so he misses out a lot. also there are a lot of problems with the behaiviour on the buses.
have to laugh I said phone me when your on the second bus.........10 min later he phoned as is on secon bus. so it will be quicker than me picking him up.

are you worried about his safety? maybe your area is a bit dodgy?

if not i would tell him to get his arse on the damn bus, what sort of wuss wants mummy picking him up at 15?? (remember, he is less than a year away from from leaving school!), how the hell is he going to get job, have a social life etc if he is too bloody coddled to get on public transport.

My ds is 14 and would be very unhappy about getting two buses on his own (wrt being bullied etc.) Depends on the child. No doubt it was the surprise of you not being reliable that sent him 'arsey'. Give him a bit of slack. Perhaps you need to find out more about what was going through his mind.

I'd read him the riot act for swearing at me.

all sorted he has said sorry and been really nice.
I have no problem with picking him up. Just wanted to know how to stop him being rude.

When you figure that one out, let me know!