How to help dd 13 with friends? Possibly ASD

[Trixiepixie6]

My DD is 13.5 recently started secondary (September in Ireland) She is a lovely girl, caring, a little bit innocent for her age , compliant. I brought her to an Ed psychologist for possible dyslexia and the psychologist thought she showed signs of ASD, to be honest I was a bit shocked as I never would have thought her to be on the spectrum but now I have had time to look into girls on the spectrum, she does tick a lot of boxes. I still don’t have a diagnosis as I was at the psychologist for a dyslexia diagnosis. Anyway she has always had problems keeping friends. She doesn’t fall out with people or anything, they seem to loose interest in her. They also seem to walk all over her, dump her and pick her up when they feel like it. She doesn’t seem to have any real fixed interests? I’ve noticed it more since starting secondary. She sticks to the same people and doesn’t broaden her group of friends. So if the people she is used to aren’t there she has no one. I don’t know how to help her, I feel so sorry for her she is such a lovely girl and so nice to everyone it breaks my heart. I can’t even join her in anything at the moment with lockdown. I don’t even know what to join her in, she likes baking but there isn’t many teen classes where we live. I’m kind of lost. Any advice please?

geeky boys, works for dd.

do they have a special needs room at her school? somewhere for those who struggle with social/busy times to congregate?

Thanks for replies. They do have all those facilities in the school but I know she would not use them in fear she would stand out. Also she doesn’t really struggle with sensory issues. If she has asd she is high functioning. If I said to someone irl she might have asd they wouldn’t believe me as she has no obvious signs if that makes sense. She doesn’t hang around with any boys I wish she would, she really shys away from them even though she has 2 brothers and has always been in a mixed school. One thing I’ve figured out is one child with Asd is one child with asd. My son has asd and he is completely different, he’s confident, very popular, loads of friends but struggles with concentration and anxiety, has lots of rituals etc and she is the opposite she’s all together when it come to school, very tidy and organized but isn’t confident and struggles with friends.