Would love an outside perspective please. Ds14 has a few chores to help out at home. These are to clean his room on a Saturday, to take out recycling if there is any each morning before school and after dinner and to dry the pots after dinner. I work early mornings so not at home when kids are up and getting ready for school. Just got home from work to a message on side from dp to ds14 saying, no devices tonight as you chose to sit on your iPad this morning rather than take out the recycling before school. I am unsure on how I feel about this, dp thinks that ds is now 14 and knows what his household jobs are, it’s his responsibility to get them done or face a consequence (this is always loss of device time), I am leaning more to the thought of if I was at home I would just say to ds, do the recycling before you go on your iPad please, that way jobs get done and no one is losing out on anything, it would take a matter of seconds to do this in my opinion.
This has been an issue in the past with dp and I differing on what we think on this issue, dp says if he is old enough to stay home alone when we go out, play 16 rated computer games and watch age related things on tv he is old enough to do his jobs without constant prompting and is just choosing not to do them as can’t be bothered.
Can I have honest thoughts please