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Teenagers

Parenting teenagers has its ups and downs. Get advice from Mumsnetters here.

Just lost it with my kids

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Rubyshoes15 · 01/11/2020 14:21

I’m not proud I turned into a shouty mum. But I have just hit the low point. Have a 15 DS and a 14 DD born spend a lot of time in their rooms and only appear when food is ready. I lost it because all week I’ve asked them to do homework tidy room and they do it today after telling me they had no homework and yes they would do their room. I can’t remember the last time one of them hugged me asked if I was ok how my day was ect. The constant demands of money and take me places ect is constant. Me and DC dad not together but have remarried a lovely man who don’t really get involved unless one of the DC ask for help so am trumpeting my own and feel I’ve messed up. I didn’t want to lose it with them and never have before. I had a awful childhood and feel I’ve turned into my mother who I was put into care for my now safety. How do you all cope with teenagers and what’s normal what’s not. 😓

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MiddleClassMother · 01/11/2020 21:56

I don't want to read and run but unfortunately I have little experience with teenagers (I was once one myself if that counts🤔)
You're not a bad mum, it's normal to lose your temper with your kids sometimes (expect all the "perfect" parents on here of course)
Maybe try to start being a little stricter with them and get them to help around the house, or no pocket money, going out etc. Did you ever receive counselling re your DM? It sounds like you still harbour the fear over turning into her when parenting your own DC. It might really help you. Best of luck OP x

malificent7 · 02/11/2020 11:14

I know how you feel op...my teen is the same. I losy it yesterday as she refused to look for her gym kit and demanded i buy her a new one then moaned when I looked in her room for it. Low and behold it was there in her drawer. I feel like a shit mum as she is behaving like an entitled brat!

Rubyshoes15 · 02/11/2020 18:08

Thank you. Makes me feel better to know I’m not on my own

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barbites · 03/11/2020 09:50

I'm not enjoying parenting teenagers very much! I lost my shit on Sunday with dd (15) who had got friggin bright pink slime on her new carpet...that's on top of spilling coffee and smoothie on it recently. I've asked her not to bring food and drink in her room but she literally ignores me 🙄
Clearly my rant worked as I've just found coffee and smoothie spills on her duvet I changed at the weekend 🤬
I can only assume it's part of the process of making us all ready for them to leave home. I love her dearly but I am looking forward to my home being nice again one day!
I suppose it could be much worse...she's a lazy, messy teen but she's respectful of other boundaries I set which are more important than tidiness 🙂

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