14 yr old DD so cheeky to me

[mumontherun14]

Hi

Tonight I was giving DD a lift over after school to look after her horse. We were chatting on way over all was ok. As we got to the yard the car park was full & as I was trvying to turn I blocked the entrance to the riding school bit. She started freaking out shouting at me really cheekily to move & not park there & I started shouting back saying I was the driver & I had someone behind me.

I got into a space & as she got out I told them not to slam the door which she did then gave me the middle finger. There was a few others standing there (adults) and I think she was showing off. She has never done that before. Well I just lost it.. I sprang out of the car and grabbed her & shouted at her to get in the car & get home which she refused & ran off to her tack room.

I am raging with her she can be so cheeky & disrespectful at times to me & her dad then other times she is her lovely self.

I have driven away tears threatened to ground her & am now thinking of taking away her phone.

Am I overreacting? I feel like such a crap parent & so embarrassing at the yard in front of everyone.

I wouldnt be offering her anymore lifts for a while until she apologises at least. I don't think you're overreacting. She may have been embarrassed but you were the driver, you were giving her a lift, etc. She didn't need to be so rude.

She could make her own way over to the riding school from now on.

Tbh you shouting at her doesn’t sound like great modelling.

Unfortunately it’s quite far & we own the horses so she has to get there to feed them etc & I often help her . That’s why i am so annoyed as well she just doesn’t appreciate it at times.

I always think the punishment should fi r the xrine.

I would not be letting this outrageous behaviour slide. Massive consequences need to be dished out.

I know I know . I am now questioning myself I am usually quite a calm person it takes a lot to get me mad but she just pushed my buttons there. I would never have dreamed of doing that to an adult least of all my own mum x

Sorry, dog jumped on me.
The punishment should fit the crime. No more lifts to the stables for the foreseeable future.

Sounds like both of you need to get a grip on your temper. She shouts, you shout louder, she gives you the finger, you start grabbing her and yelling in the yard. I get that the rudeness and ingratitude are infuriating but you're also demonstrating that its ok to lose your rag, yell at someone and start manhandling them. What if she grabbed you when she was angry?

Sounds like you both have bad tempers. I’d look for an apology from her first though. Then just both of you resolve to not push each other’s buttons. Can’t really punish her in my opinion because you acted just as bad towards her.

She has just phoned me to apologise in floods of tears. Aww man the joys of teen girls x

I’ve apologised as well for shouting x