Pocket money

[topcat2014]

DW and I cannot agree. I want to give Dd pocket money every month. DW wants to give money for jobs, and no flat rate.

To me that sounds such a joyless 1970s way to be.

I am fortunate that money isn't really an issue. I want life to be about fun stuff rather than dull. Personally if dd wants to keep her clothes in piles on the floor I can't get too agitated.

Dw spends all evening picking arguments over these things.

Help me find a middle way :)

What about a fixed amount of pocket money weekly/monthly at a slightly lower rate than you'd like, which can then be topped up by DD doing chores or jobs?

That way if DD wants more, she has the option to earn it and both you and DW kind of get your own way too.

@annie yes, that might be the way. I don't think DW got pocket money much, so she really struggles with the concept whereas I had plenty.

Difficult I suppose where you really only know your own experience!

I have never paid ds for chores, they are expected from everyone as part of keeping our house nice. Not leaving piles of clothes on the floor would be dealt with as a separate issue to pocket money.

DS2 had a gohenry card which I set up to give him some pocket money with no strings attached and he could earn extra by doing chores. When he was saving up for things he'd be diligent in his chores, but if he was feeling lazy he just it the basic. I set the chores to be things that were nice (for me), but not frustrating if he didn't.
Seemed to work