Teenager going off the rails

[Nicdec79]

So my son has always been so good at school, college came and he struggled with no structure and left - did it matter - not really as he was part of the COVID 19 marking ! He has been looking for jobs but to no avail - what I’m struggling with is his step dad has purposely put a camera in the kitchen window and finally tonight he has caught what he wanted ! The lads smoking weed! I have literally gone mad at my boy & I understand it’s also my partners house but feel torn between my son doing bad which I have let him know the consequences to my partner spying ( now he has his proof camera is taken down ) although he said it’s for his shed. I had a crap up bringing with step fathers and the warning signs are there! My son is wrong and I have let him know but am
I wrong in feeling so betrayed and angry by my partner now the camera is down ?

No! Filming your son covertly is WRONG and I would be thinking seriously about leaving him.

Many teens go off the rails a bit....smoking weed is almost a rite of passage! It's bad of him to do it of course but to film someone secretly is worse!

Most teens need help to find a job....what have you done to help DS?

It just feels so odd & I’m angry at both of them for different reasons. I have said it’s an invasion of privacy to which he replied it’s my house I can do what I want and I don’t trust him. We are out working and this is what is happening.
I had a long good chat with DS, he is bored stuck at home all day & covid has made it harder to do things. We have said we will spend an hour an evening together to go through jobs and apply etc. He knows he can talk to me and normally is quite open with me.

How long have you lived with this man? Imagine if your DS was a girl? Doesn't make him less vulnerable because he is a boy...

We have been together for 17 years.

It's a breach of privacy to film someone in their own home where they can expect privacy. You can film outside...or in some public places but not secretly in someone's home.

Your partner has broken the law and more importantly, he's shown your son NO respect.