teenage daughters drug dealer boyfriend

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Can anyone help me ! my 16 yr daughter has been seeing a 22yr old drug dealer !! What can I do!!
his mum has thrown him out and he is living on the streets.
she once brought home drugs to look after ,which i found and told her under no circumstances she can not bring any in, which she has done.
My daughter and i have a reasonbily good relationship , but she is very strong minded and has a quick temper..
help!!!

Tell her the ground rules that he can't come round or stay its just not practical.
But I wouldn't ban her from seeing him that's just asking for trouble. Be calm and reasonable.

thats quite worrying - its a big age gap.
i have quite similiar problems, im really not a fan of my DD (15) boyfriend but im aware i can't stop it.
has she relationships before? what have they been like?

Yes it's her second boyfriend, her first lasted 6mths and was the same age.

I know this sounds awful but I would be insisting on good contraception. The most important thing is that there aren't long-lasting consequences.

Iam trying to be calm, and I have figured that it's best not to push them away, as the saying goes keep your enemies close, but I ve told her that Iam not happy about it.. I think he's small time so no gang member...I said because he's sleeping rough he could have a shower and she could give him some food.... I thought of reporting him to the police....
But not sure if it's a good idea....
He is smaller than my daughter...
He looks a bit like a weasel!!!

That's true, I have spoken to her about it and she refuses the pill. She said she doesn't want chemicals in her body, which I found quite ironic?!!!

The thing is she's likely to be so fertile at that age and to be having so much sex (sorry, but that's what's happening) and she needs to make absolutely sure she doesn't get pregnant.

There's a thing where you say "play the video to the end" - you say, so what happens if you still carry on seeing him. You get a job. He'll want your money - will you support him financially? How much will you give him - half? Two thirds? And you're having sex with him. What are the chances, do you think, that you'll get pregnant? Now what are the chances that he'll support you? And your friends - are they going to uni? So you'll be at home, because you can't afford to live elsewhere, and he's having all your money off you, and you'll have a baby without his support. And your friends will be off having nights out with their friends, holidays... What kind of life do you want for yourself?

Is this what you want for your daughter?

It's a slippery slope. I know, I was there at her age. My parents acted like parents, regardless of our relationship. They made sure I did not see him again. And I'm glad they did.

I wouldn't let him in the house. I also wouldn't let her out to see him. It's your house, you're the parent. You need to have expectations and rules and enforce them.

She's putting the whole family at risk by getting involved with people like that. She needs to understand that's not going to be tolerated and you have to have higher expectations of her.

Why isn't he going to the council and presenting as homeless if his mum has kicked him out? Then he can get a hostel and he won't have to come to yours...

Also OP, are you not concerned that a 22 year old man is interested in a 16 year old girl?

He only got thrown out 2
days ago I think he's trying to sort something out..
Yes I am very concerned and I wasn't sure how to play it. I didn't know if I was too strict she would rebel.
We do talk alot and I have said alot of the above, she is a grown up 16yrold but nonetheless she is still only 16. I just don't know how to stop her seeing him.
But I think I need to carry on talking to her.
I wasn't sure weather to discreetly getthe police involved.

Thanks everyone for your help, it's been a great help to see other people's opinions. [s

Hi, how did all this work out? I know it’s an old thread but we’re going through a similar thing with our nearly 18 year old DD. Her BF is the same age as her though. It’s a living nightmare and we’re terrified. I’d really appreciate any advice.