Opposite sex friends sleeping over question

[JudyGemstone]

Hi, just canvassing for opinions - if you had a 16 year old son would you allow him to have a 16 year old female friend to stay over in his room? Assuming her parents are aware and ok with it.

Thanks!

Nope not even if they were together, or just friends. Midnight comes along and she sleeps in the front room. Or if possible they have the front room to themselves. again cut off time when he leaves and goes to his room.

I'd be the same I'd dd wanted a boy to sleep over. If they don't like it, them staying doesn't happen

Thanks, I did set a bed up there which she slept in (apparently). I said yes last night but tend to not always think things through and am now wondering if I shouldn't have 😕

They're sensible and mature kids generally.

Who told you her parents were ok with it?

She did

All sleepovers happen in our front room, regardless of the sex of the participants. Doors remain open in rooms with guests. Those who live here can go to their own beds, I don't require it.

These have been the rules since our kids were small, back when the concern was mainly disturbing younger sibling's sleep. My 16-year-old son is well aware of this and I'd be happy to tell any parent our set-up.

We also have the benefit of having two night workers in the house, so we only have sleepovers when at least one of them is off and able to keep an ear out/be annoying during sleepovers.

No..I remember really really wanting my male friend's parents to say no, at that age and situation, as I was too scared to.

It would be a No from me.

I have let my DD (then 15) stay over at a male friends house. There were a few friends staying over - spoke with friends mum who assured me boys and girls had separate sleeping areas. Good chat with DD before and decided I had to trust her sometime.

@BiBabbles

All sleepovers happen in our front room, regardless of the sex of the participants. Doors remain open in rooms with guests. Those who live here can go to their own beds, I don't require it.

These have been the rules since our kids were small, back when the concern was mainly disturbing younger sibling's sleep. My 16-year-old son is well aware of this and I'd be happy to tell any parent our set-up.

We also have the benefit of having two night workers in the house, so we only have sleepovers when at least one of them is off and able to keep an ear out/be annoying during sleepovers.

Hahaha that's what I used to do. OP you really need to be sure the girls parents know what's going on. She could have told them a cock and bull story and if they find out or anything goes wrong, the finger will be pointed at you as the adult. Do the right thing for everyone's sake.

Having been the sixteen year old girl myself. She probably told her parents she was at a female friends house.

She could have done I suppose yes.
I know my son has had sex before as we've talked about it. Not in my house and not with this girl though, they're just mates. He's always had good female friends which I think is good for teenage boys.

He has stayed as this girls house with her parents there before in her room (he says). He's with his dad half the time so I don't always know what he's doing every minute of the day to be fair.

At 16 my boyfriend's parents used to make me sleep in the front room. My boyfriend just used to sneak in and sleep with me then we'd get up early before his parents. My parents used to let is sleep in the same room.

Whatever your rules are, they will bend them to do what they want or find somewhere where they can do what they want anyway.

Yep, I let my teens friends sleep over often a mixed sex group. I would send a quick text to the parents so they're in the loop. Not all friends want to jump into bed together and if they did there's nothing they can do after midnight that they cant do during the day.