Half term holiday

[Dowetakeherornot]

We have booked a holiday for half term week. It is not our usual kind of holiday, but we are in restricted times.
Our soon-to-be 15 year old DD has expressed the wish to NOT come on holiday with us. To be honest, our holidays are often strained as DD does not like the same activities as we do (think walking and cycling). Because this holiday is in the UK, and because of the restrictions, we are planning on doing "nature" activities away from civilisation.
So, do we force her to come with us, or leave her at home for a week? We have a family member who could come and stay with her for the week, so she wouldn't be left alone.
DD has already had a holiday this year, as she went away in the summer holidays with her friend. But DH and I haven't had a break all year.
I'd love her to come with us as I'm hoping she might have a nice time if she comes with us. But I know DH and I will have a better time without her. But then I will also be worrying about her being at home whilst we are away.
Cancelling is not really an option without losing a lot of money. And DH and I really need a break away.
Shall I give in and let DD stay at home during half term. Or insist she comes with us?

That’s so tricky.
If you have someone responsible who is prepared to move in and keep an eye on her and you’d be happy with level of any supervision for her going out or having friends around - then maybe leave her and have a lovely well deserved break!
But if you feel you may be worried the whole time about what she is getting up to, then she comes with you. Can she stay in the accommodation some of the days and not always go out with you So she has some of her own independence ?
If you generally have a good relationship with her and she likes the outdoors she will probably end up enjoying it!

It's sad when they want to stay home. Family holidays do seem to come to an abrupt end

Is there the possibility of her coming with you to start with and being able to return home if she wants to? Is it too far for you to drive her back or get a train? Chances are she will settle in and enjoy her self but knowing she can go home if she gets too fed up might help.

Is there one day out she would enjoy? You could prioritise that. My dd is animal mad so we seek out wildlife parks etc.

We’ve had a long family chat about the holiday over the weekend.
DD has now been given a GCSE photography project over half term entitled ‘nature’. I literally could kiss her teacher. DD has been given an expensive school camera too, so this has prompted enthusiasm for the holiday.
Fingers crossed 🤞🏻