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DS feeling responsible for his dads younger kids

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CalmRaven · 19/09/2020 17:15

My DS who is 16 moved to his dads a year ago. Long story short he doesn't get along with my partner and thought living with his dad would be easier! His dad has two young kids 6 and 3 and his partner suffers with mental health. My problem is that he's just started A levels at sixth form and along with finding this and the new COVID rules overwhelming, he's still having to babysit his younger siblings for 3-4 hours whilst their parents 'sleep'. He's also moaning that he's having to do a lot of chores and is finding it stressful fitting everything in. I know I should speak to his dad about it, but I will only be accused of interfering in their life! I've told him he can come back home, but he says that he feels responsibility for the the kids. In his words, they're feral mum, the dogs might as well be bringing them up. Now I know he's probably over exaggerating but I am worried Confused. Any advice please

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Mynameisrow · 19/09/2020 17:22

Why doesn’t he like your partner?
I’d move him back home. It’s absolutely no life for a teen to be looking after their younger siblings if their parents can’t cope. I feel sorry for him.

WeAllHaveWings · 20/09/2020 00:50

Tell him the kids will be fine if he is not there, his dad is just taking advantage of him and they will need to step up if he wasn't there.

Get him home if it is the best environment for him and it if isn't do whatever you need to do to make it, A level year is important. What are, and how long have the problems between him and your partner been going on?

Northernparent68 · 20/09/2020 07:10

You need to address why he does nt get on with your partner, and it may come down to choices

CalmRaven · 24/09/2020 18:37

Thanks all. DS doesn't like my partner, doesn't like being told to do chores, says he feels bullied, but he's not. He also says he can't deal with My partners son, who is aspbergers and is 19. He won't come home, I have asked him to. He says he can't leave the kids. We are having a family meeting with both sides this weekend. I'm dreading it!

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HollowTalk · 24/09/2020 18:39

Put your child above your partner, OP. Your poor son isn't being put first by either parent.

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