Teens gaming and bedtime at weekends?

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DS is 15 and has a PlayStation in his room.
He thinks he should be allowed to stay up as late as he wants on weekends playing online (bearing in mind he is on it a lot during the day too).
I usually insist he turns the PlayStation off about 11pm and lights out at midnight, but apparently I am being unfair and all of his friends are allowed to stay online as long as they want. I’m aware that this probably isn’t true, so I wanted to ask what your rules are with teens regarding screen time and bedtimes? Am I being to strict?
My main worry about letting him ‘self regulate’ is that he would be up half the night gaming, then be exhausted the next day, and it then has a knock on effect into the following week. He has his exams next year and he has missed enough school as it is, he needs to be able to concentrate at school.
Plus, is it ok to let a 15 year old have complete autonomy over gaming/ bedtimes etc or should I as his parent set the rules? Argh! Teenagers! It’s a bloody minefield 😬

At 15 I allowed ds to self regulate at weekends. They need to learn sometime. We had a chat about being reasonable and if he overdid it and it affected his sleep on a school night/Sunday, schoolwork, training or attitude I would bin the PS4 🤣.

Every teen is different, he's been doing it for over a year now and so far has been ok, he has the occasional late one but it hasn't caused any problems. At 16 he is officially an adult (in Scotland), as much as I would like to, making him abide by a bedtime routine isn't really appropriate anymore.

I’m tough on this. Lights out and no screens at 10pm in the week, 10.30pm at weekends. DS is 15, he’s never been good at sleeping in after a late night, and his younger sibling wakes early so the house isn’t quiet. He has to be out of the house by 7.30am in the week so I just can’t afford to let him have late nights.
He moans and shouts and yells at how unfair I am, and how he isn’t tired, but invariably he’s asleep within seconds.

Well they have to learn sometime.
These were the biggest, in fact the only, source of conflict when mine were teens. Previously I had strict time limits on gaming and bedtimes and they hated it.
So we negotiated an agreement where they would go to bed at an agreed time on school nights but on weekends there was no bedtime. No limits on gaming providing school work done properly. This would depend on them not abusing the rules and if they did all agreementswere off. We even drew up a contract . There were a few stupidly late nights to begin with but they settled down.
This one thing made family life much more harmonious.

They are now early 20s.

I say off at 10 during school week (I am the strictest mum in the world, none of my friends have to blah blah) and turn something of a blind eye weekends and holidays, tho even then if I found him on his pc past half 11 I would have a bit of a word. Its a nightmare. I have on the whole given up and he spends most of his life gaming. So long as school grades are ok, he has friends, he seems happy, he speaks to me in passing from time to time I've decided to tolerate it (and hope its a phase!)

Dd loves gaming. After having the whole summer holiday spent with her awake all night supposedly 'self regulating ' we switch off the wifi at 11 on school nights and 1 on weekends. She moans, but I think that's generous.