How to deal with DS

[AnneElliott]

DS is 14 and is a bit of a sulker. He can be rude at times and when j tell him off he then ignores me for days.

I don't react and continue getting on with things but naturally am not offering food or any other services - but should I try a c get him to speak? Or just wait for him to get bored? Grateful for advice. He's still talking to DH.

I would tell him that it is classed as abusive behaviour, a controlling mechanism to make you behave in a particular way so as not to upset him and give you the silent treatment. In fact in relationship terms it is classed as one of the four horses of the apocalypse meaning a relationship is doomed to fail. He needs to cut that shit out right now. No future girlfriend wants that.

I have in the past when either of my two sons acted horrid toward me told them that if this was a relationship I would kick them out. As they are my sons they have to amend their behaviour as it is unacceptable to treat me like this.

I think you need to be honest with him. for reference.

I'd talk to him about better ways to express how he feels rather than sulking which is really quite juvenile.

Thanks - goodness they're hard work aren't they. I will try and have a conversation. The only consequence that works is taking tech away.

I was hoping he'd need something and have to start talking but it's not happening.