Advice needed

[Sadless]

So son has moved out he is 15 years old and social services say there is nothing we can do about it. I have spoken to him but basically he thinks he's his own man now and can do what he wants.
I have asked him to come home and he won't he is living with a couple in there early 30s with 3 kids and apparently it's a laugh. I have been told he helps with housework and jobs around the house which he refused here.
I accept he would rather be there but I am upset because he's meant to be here with his family and he doesn't want to know us now.

I know at some point child grow up and get on with there own life's but I didn't expect this now.
Any advice

Sally

Is this couple the parents of a friend or something? What’s his connection to them?

That sounds devastating. How did it happen? Why them? I'm wondering why they would let a 15 year old move in. Is he at school?
I'm sorry too many questions but we have a nearly 15 year old son too.

It's one of his friend's parents only starting hanging around with him because his girlfriend got took into care. He attends a pupil referral unit and goes back on Wednesday. We have had problems with him for years but he likes it there won't argue with them does what they say never would here always pushed the boundaries.
He told them that he has been beaten at home which is a lie I suppose they feel sorry for him.
I said one night that he couldn't stop another night because he had been there 2 already and he refused to stay home.
A few weeks later and still there.
He doesn't have rules there and at my house he didn't like sharing with his 2 brother but he is there.
I spoke to him and told him his dad was upset about all this and he just said well I am not bothered so he shouldn't. I don't know what to do the social services said it's his choice and we can't do any thing about it now.
A few years ago he didn't like them and now they are great apparently the dad has promised loads of clothes on pay day. They could be really nice people but I have heard a few stories mainly husband cheating and they like having a house full drinking. Don't know

Stressed and sad

Sally

I think you need to focus not on his abandonment of the family or whatever but on really showing him love. Let him stay there but don’t let him entirely tune out to the family. So go visit (without his brothers), take a gift ( I suspect you don’t have a lot of money to do this but I’m thinking chocolate or something cheap each time) but don’t mention/guilt him into coming home. Kind of a love bombing strategy. Don’t say your dad feels x, say “ I really miss you and I respect your decisions but I still really live you and want to see you”. The husbands cheating doesn’t really have any effect on your son, the drinking might. Do you know if your son drinks with them?

Not really sure if hes drinking and I don't get on with the friend's parents so it's unlikely that I could visit his friend had been sending nasty messages to us too.
I have stopped the benefits and the social services said that was me giving consent which it isn't. They said to stop giving him money a few weeks ago to make them send him home.
But my son said the mother gets £1500 on benefits and the dads on£3000 a month wage so they have alot of money coming in. I couldn't afford to take another child on.

My husband is saying if he wants to stay there then he doesn't have to bother with us again. My daughter says the same she's 16 and can't believe what he's saying about us.
Its a difficult situation.

Sally