Dh 14 lost his gran at the weekend subddenly. DJ’s mother. We’re all heartbroken. Due to the limitations on guests at the moment we have had to watch who we invite but try and make sure the family are all there. Between dh and his family it was decided no kids would go. I can see the point of his brothers young grandkids and they don’t really get it all anyway but ds is a teenager. He went to her husbands, his grandad when he was 10. I know that was probably a bit young at the time but really he coped amazingly. The thing is since he joined our family, we rarely see anyone, aunties uncles, cousins and his grannies are the only two people in our entire family he has any real connection to as he sees them pretty loch every week and makes their tea etc ... the little things. I feel these little things in his life are so far bigger than anyone will ever realise. I have fought with dh on this and said I want our son there, and that I was outraged that he could decide this without even mentioning it.. tough was the response! He has now apparently told his brother to include him since I spoke to ds myself about it and he said he would like to be there. He can handle it just fine whereas dh said to me that he didn’t like being at grandads funeral last time - I mean who does? Nobody likes funerals, they make us sad but we get through it together as a family. Am I wrong?