Family 'rules' ...

[Benzer01]

Can I ask what your general family rules for your teens are please? Especially WRT boyfriends (both my teens are girls), chores & screentime. Butting heads with DD (15) ATM as she's reaching stages before we've decided what our groundrules are & she's forever pushing boundaries. So; she's accusing us of being strict & unreasonable, but any other mums I know IRL are on the same page as me....DH is more old school 'I'm in charge', whereas I feel we need to allow a certain amount of leeway so they can become independant & develop. The problem with DD is she always wants more, pushes further. I'm not sure if we are being unreasonable or she is....

-no rules about boyfriends - come to us if you need help regarding contraception, or book a GP appointment yourself. BE SAFE and don't accept any funny business

-chores - room must be tidy, each responsible for their own laundry, responsible for their own breakfast and lunch, cooks one dinner a week, does dishes/hoovering/dusting as requested

-screentime - no rules now, they're old enough to self regulate, DD1 has a job and pays her own phone contract, DD2 will do the same when she's working.

My dd age 16 has had her first boyfriend for nearly six months. When they first started seeing each other, she was 15 and he was always welcomed in the house, but they stayed downstairs and socialised in the kitchen at first. By inviting him to our house, we got to know him and as her bf was always polite and respectful towards her and us, she was shown more trust. When they became more serious and she turned 16, they were allowed to spend time in her bedroom with the door slightly open. We have had the talk about safe sex and contraception, but to my knowledge they have not had sex yet and I believe her. With everyone always at home due to lockdown, they have not had much opportunity to be alone. I would rather they were in the house together and safe than elsewhere.

In terms of chores, she keeps her room tidy, brings her own laundry down regularly to be washed and sorts out changing her own bed linen. She sorts out the dishwasher, makes a family meal once a week and cleans out the rabbit. She will also do other tasks when asked, e.g hoover or dust.

She does not have restrictions on her screen time currently now she is 16. Although she did not sit her GCSEs - we probably would have restricted it over important exam periods. She is due to start college in a few weeks and is often on FaceTime with her bf until quite late. This will be reviewed once she starts college.