swearing for a reaction

[aladdinisalive]

My teens swear when my husband is home as they know he doesn't like it. We are all getting very fed up with each others company and hubby always nitpicking at them they know id they say the F word he flips out, they love the reaction and the shouting match that then takes place. They rarely swear with me maybe now and then but I don't react so hey son't do it. Hubby says I am undermining him by not disiplining them but I am sure if he didn't react they wouldn't do it!!!

Try a silent reaction? 10% off their allowance for every swear word. That way you are punishing them but not giving them the row they want.

How old are they? Sounds like you and your husband have very different ideas of what is acceptable and how to deal with their behaviour. That’s not great.

Are they his kids?

Yes they are his kids they are 15 and 13.

They are old enough to know what one person finds acceptable another may not. I dont mind my kids swearing and don't punish them for it if its in the home and not aimed at a person I.e they can say "eugh I've had a shit day" they can't say "DS2 is a piece of shit" I would sit them down with DH and explain that you have different opinions on swearing and they should not swear in front of DH as he doesn't like it the same way they wouldn't swear in front of their teachers. No shouting match if they do but a loss of privileges instead.