My DD14 has been struggling for the last year. Her behaviour towards us can be so rude and unpleasant on a daily basis, especially with myself. She has had meltdowns which have sometimes resulted in hitting, throwing things etc. We have tried a variety of different strategies with minimal success including sanctions etc
I got her seen in CAMHS and she is now in the process of getting some therapy but it is very early days. We think she is probably struggling with high anxiety levels and regulating her emotions, which manifests in her using her family as a punch bag and controlling us. Prior to the last 1 year, she used to be fine, so I do think there is something underlying this very unpleasant teenage behaviour and am keen for her to work on her anxiety
However, my experience of getting her help so far has been that she has become more ‘poor me’, ‘nobody understands me’, which is making her more unpleasant and entitled in her behaviour towards us. She has started to accuse me of abusing her when I try to tell her that her behaviour is rude or it is not going to help her
I was hoping it would give her more skills to cope with her anxiety which is why we started it in the first place....
What have other people’s experiences of getting help for their teenagers been? Does this ‘poor me’ Do I just need to sit and wait it out until she develops some insight with the therapy? I don’t know where to go to from here. Please help