dS (age 14) has just gone to bed. He just spent two and half hours solid of shouting at me and Ds. Saying some horrible things like he wishes DH would burn on a stake and he would watch it happen. Keeps saying we aren't his real parents and he doesn't love us (adopted as a baby). Pushed me hard a few times. Coming up to my face aggressively, staring into my eyes. Saying we are soft and he wants us to do something so he "can be triggered". Wanting confrontation from us. Got his fists balled up all the time. He put on his sparring glove and kept punching the wall etc. Told him yet again about disturbing neighbours but he just says he doesn't care.
He was accusing DH of staring at his computer every day - (he is working from home!). Saying that all I have done is sit in the garden, despite me offering to take him out. He refuses to go out and just wants to be on his phone all day. He does have about 90 minutes of exercise a day but it's not enough.
We've told him he can forget his martial arts class unless he makes some big
changes in his attitude and self control.
This is all because he wants his playstation back, which he lost before for this very same behaviour last July. He had several chances but kept showing extreme aggression.
During lockdown he bruised a bone in my arm by punching it, I rang the child neurodisability clinic (ADHD)and was given a telephone consultation appointment lbut it was cancelled. Have also asked for help from the MAST team by phone and e mail but still no help.
He never wants hugs and it's quite chilling to be honest. He clearly has a complex range of issues and I'm not sure who can help with it all