Very timid 14 year old....anxiety or depression??

[Lollysticks12]

Advice, tips needed.

14 year old teenage daughter has spent most of lockdown on roblox, barely been outside unless its insisted she does.
School work , she's done some quality work but still has 20 pieces with an overdue date despite insisting on her handing in 2 a day, it seems to take her ages.
She won't go out and walk as says she's too self conscious, wouldn't help get the shopping delivery in as she looks a mess (for the delivery driver)! She didn't at all.
Now wants to meet a friend in town but she won't go unless I drive her as she's scared to go on the bus.
Whenever I insist on anything or try and talk to her about how important all this is she cries, I initially thought she's just lazy but now I'm wondering if its some kind of anxiety and I need to deal with it differently, does anyone have any ideas please ?

Sounds like she feels helpless and out of control- she wants to see her friend in town but can't control the journey and this is so frustrating. When I have an out of control feeling it's usually fear, anxiety and helplessness that cause it and the thing that can aliviate (if that's the right spelling) is someone coming along and helping me step by step. The more gentle encouragement and help someone gets the more they feel in control and can start doing things for themselves again. I hope that makes sense and helps a little. But to me she definitely sounds anxious and frustrated because of her anxiety 😒

Thank you for replying, I think I'll try and be more patient and understanding and hopefully this will lead to her getting less anxious about things, I'll give her a lift tomorrow just so she actually goes out and starts being a bit more social, thanks for the advice 🙂

Just bear with her for now. I'd be doing ferrying around too if she's showing some keenness to go out.