Moods and behaviour

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Tonight ds said he was going for a run. We asked where and he described a short route. We said it was too late to run that route, not safe alone but he said we can't stop him and set off.
An hour later he was not back. I set off walking to look for him and about 10 mins later I got a text from DH to say ds was back home. I got home and was ignorantly ignoring us, laid on the sofa with his headphones on. I went upstairs to put my pyjamas on, text him to say he should shower and I got in bed to read. He ignored my message.
How can we stop him setting off on run/walk alone? A few days ago he set off and ended up 3 miles away at a friend's house. He had not told the friend and they were shocked to see him !
We have told him not to run in the evening alone but it's not getting through to him. I don't know how to make him stop this behaviour

Sounds like he wants to push the boundaries for the sake of some freedom. Would he be open to a reasonable conversation? I find this age group impervious to our sense of risk. What sort of time are you talking- 8 pm, 10pm? Would he respond to simple penalties? Or a fixed rule, like be home by 9?

What age is he
What time.
16/18 they don't take no for an answer.

Could you or your dh run with him.

He is just 14. No we don't run and he just suddenly decidedes on the spur of the moment .He still won't shower from yesterday , it's now 2.20 pm the next day and he's not even got dressed

Are you sure he’s running? It’s a bit odd. But 14 year olds are odd. I’d be inclined to lock the door at whatever time you think is appropriate if he keeps on going out when you’ve said no. Or impose some sanction.

Another one here questioning if he’s actually running? Is he visibly hot and sweaty when he gets home? What time are you talking here?