Homework during lockdown

[happymoment]

I have a lot of problems to get my 14yo dc to homework in the last few months. Now I’m worried if dc will want to go back to school in September let alone catch up. Please talk to me.

Is he/she year 9 or year 10, OP?

It's not great, but try not to worry. I'm sure your dc won't be the only one who has struggled through this period. The school will probably put things in place to try and help kids to catch up.

Did dc like school before lockdown? Did he/she have friends, and won't he/she want to go back and see them again?

My dc will be in yr 10 in September. Before lockdown I was arranging help with the school for dc’s anxiety. During lockdown the school nurse contacted dc by phone and email numerous time but dc refused to engage. Now the family service is getting involved too.

No advice for you @happymoment, but we are in the same situation 😕

DD is 15 and going into exam year, but has anxiety issues, was on a part time timetable prior to lockdown, and did very little work at home once the schools were closed. I tried everything to support and encourage her ( including backing off and leaving her to it), even talked to her guidance teacher and asked if she could call DD (she didn't).

Summer holidays here now so I've been trying not to think about it for a couple of weeks. DD says she's living her best life 🙄 I just can't understand how she can't make the link between her education and her future options. So frustrating. She is bright, so could do well at school if she would only put some bloody work in.

I'm struggling with it, but have to accept maybe she will leave school with no qualifications, work for a few years (to pay for her fake tan, false eyelashes etc) and once she decides what career path she wants, maybe return to education, if necessary, as a mature student. Different paths for different people 🤷‍♀️ Getting her anxiety down so she can deal with normal everyday stresses is the priority atm.

I'm dreading the school's going back, so I'm off to bury my head in the sand for another few weeks 🙈🙉🙊 Good luck OP 💐💐💐

Thanks staywithmemyblood, I keep telling myself that my dc is not the only one...... I m sure plenty of kids are in the similar position etc etc..... I got in touch with the family service again. I m hoping someone from the social service can make a difference in time for September. I just hope someone can encourage dc to at least focus on maths, English and science GCSEs. I feel I m such a failure. I can’t even manage my dc over school work.

You're not a failure at all. Lots of kids have struggled, and lots of parents have struggled too. It has been a difficult and unprecedented situation for everyone. I have a dd who will be going into year 11, and although she has worked hard over the last few months, many of her peers have done next to nothing. Your dc definitely won't be the only one, and the school will already be thinking about how to help those kids catch up.

Try not to focus too much on what dc has or hasn't done in lockdown. That time has gone now, and there is nothing that either of you can do to change it. The main thing is to focus on a plan to move things forward, and it sounds like you're already doing just that.

Ultimately, with teenagers, we can only steer and guide them. We cannot force them to do things, even when it's in their best interests, but we can encourage and support them, and help them to deal with any obstacles that they might encounter. It sounds like that's exactly what you have been doing. The rest of it is down to your dc.

Hi our son is in Y9. He just wants to watch you tube or play games on his phone. He has no interest at all in school work. In bottom sets and has some SEN. Doesn't help with DH WFH in the living room. It is a stifling atmosphere at home. No sports or anything to do.

Thanks Alexashutup and Feelinglikedancingyeah, you are very nice.