Hi
Long time lurker on mumsnet and just looking for some words of wisdom from all you lovely mums out there who may have been/or going through the same.
My daughter is nearly 18 and for the last four years it been a struggle for her. She was diagnosed with anorexia in 2015, has anxiety and OCD tendencies, has had friendship issues throughout school where she has been excluded from plans but has somehow managed to keep going.
Sixth form started so well and I was seeing the old her back again, she was happy and laughing and showing her sociable personality. She then went into a relationship which became quite intense quickly and in my gut i knew something wasn't right, she became isolated from friends and everything revolved around her boyfriend. She ended the relationship 3 months ago and she confided in me it had been very very controlling and he was now bad mouthing her to everyone saying it was her fault etc etc. This has left her feeling anxious about seeing people from her year in case they judge her.
At the same time her dad was involved in a very serious road traffic accident and nearly died, everyone messaged seeing how she was and she thought that her friends were reconnecting with her and for a moment she was relieved.
This hasn't been the case though, she has managed to reconnect with one friend who she has seen a few times but she is still being excluded from the group and they post all over social media when they get together. She has tried to explain to that close group what had happened with the ex boyfriend but she doesn't feel believed.
She has now been left with no one to meet up with; she is trying to be positive and focus on going to Uni in September and is also hoping to go back to work soon after being furloughed which will help.
I catch her sometimes and she just looks sad even though I know she is trying hard to keep going.