dS is 14 this summer. He has always been difficult to manage. Diagnosis of ADHD but the neurodisability consultant is puzzled by him and says he has a mixture of several conditions. His behaviour escalated since lockdown . He fixates on what he wants and gets really angry. I still have a bruised arm bone from being punched several weeks ago. He's been going to school a few hours to try to give some routine. He's no interest in school work at all and has a lot of learning problems (mainstream).
This morning he was stalling. We told him when he needed to be ready last night and again this morning. He kept snapping and in the end my husband could not wait any longer and had to leave for work so he could not have a lift. He called us so many sweary nasty names. I have told him before that this is verbal abuse.
He lost the playstation a year ago for horrendous behaviour and is still wanting it back. We have explained he cannot have it as he can't handle it but he still keeps being nasty and this morning said he wants it back or he will kill me.
He tells his dad he hates him and wishes he had never been brought to live with us (adopted as a baby). He's also not allowed to communicate by text to a family member because last year he sent inappropriate messages. He is STILL trying to get that person's number.
Explaining things to him is not working. I cannot understand why ? I am afraid there might be something really wrong with him?
The way he talks/shouts just is not normal and I am teetering on the edge of giving up. I've offered him so much support with school work but he consistently shows a poor attitude, avoiding doing it and a avoidant behaviours. We have had too talk about job opportunities etc. Speaking to neurodisability consultant in a few weeks on telephone appointment but they are not seeing all this daily onslaught