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Feel like dd16 is out of control help

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Livingmybestliferight · 09/06/2020 22:28

She's always been hard work. Lovely when in a good mood. Awful when things don't go her way. Obviously this year so far has been incredibly difficult. Cancelled GCSES, abrupt end to school forever and lockdown seeing no one for 11 weeks. She has just started meeting up with some mates outdoors last week. They are not the kind of friends I would prefer but unfortunately the ones she has met from her school. Every single one of her group smoke weed and drink vodka. It was her birthday last week and I knew she would drink but it got out of hand. I ended up picking her up after midnight shitfaced. She was sobbing and confused and at fuck knows who's house. A friend of a friend with some others. She had also drunk the night before this. We had words over it and I said I could get it that she wanted to go wild after being caged up but after last week it had to stop. It hasnt. She was a bit stoned yesterday and tonight had some vodka again. Why do you let her I hear you say?!
Well it's impossible to stop her and she knows it. Last time we locked her in the house she climbed out of the window. She wont listen. She says she will bunk at mates houses if we ground her and I think she would. I dont want her to leave obviously. I'm at a loss of what to do. She insists she's going to do this for another 2 weeks then it will stop. Justifies it cos of lockdown improving. Any words of advice?

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BigSandyBalls2015 · 10/06/2020 14:20

No advice but bumping this for you as it sounds very difficult. One of mine was very headstrong and drank far too much at 16, and had some questionable mates .... calmed down a bit now at 19 but she’s still a worry.

Livingmybestliferight · 12/06/2020 22:43

Thank you. Smile

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Andi2020 · 13/06/2020 15:36

@Livingmybestliferight how are things today.
I have a dd16 she is 17 July
They think they know it all.
She causes drama to get her own way.
There is another thread holding onto the rope you might find helpful.
You are not alone

Ifeelfat · 13/06/2020 21:19

I have no advice on this but a suggestion - there is a poster on another thread ‘toria368’ or similar, she’s very wise and obviously has considerable experience with this age group. You’ll find her commenting on the thread about photos.
If I were you I’d PM her. Bit cheeky but she might not mind.

MamaLion1319 · 13/06/2020 21:22

I hate to be that person but as shit as it is, it's normal behaviour. Kids will do what they wanna do, sometimes it's about risk management than trying to stop things all together. Added bonus is you know what she's doing then and can have open discussions about limits and safety.

queenoftheknight · 15/06/2020 16:06

I am so sorry.

I am going through similar.

I wish I knew the answer.

Porcupineinwaiting · 21/06/2020 14:36

Where is she getting the money for weed and vodka?

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