Help, my boy is drinking

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Don’t know where to start. My family is a mess. ExP was violent drunk. Tried to kill me whilst the kids were watching (I held one in my arms). Two oldest (boys) 7 & 9 at the time. Seven years ago now. ExP arrested, I opted not to have him back (this was UK). After appropriate steps taken moved back to my homecountry. Their little sister diagnosed with autism (non-verbal) and quite severe developmental delay. ExP moved here in 2015, a complete shitshow and courtcase which ended with the boys living 50-50 but daughter 100% with me. Only because I was being stir crazy according to the psychologists. This despite him being sentenced for violence in the UK.
Eldest struggled with suicidal thoughts and self harm. All appropriate instances involved + thankfully a great malepsychiatric nurse.
Tonight my middle one, aged 14, is asleep in the bathtub after I found him pissingly drunk in HIS room when I went to say goodnight. He has puked everywhere, thank god otherwise he would have died from alcohol poisoning. Rum and gin, stolen from my husband (step dad).
What the hell do I do now?

You need to get him professional help immediately. Obviously, you can no longer keep any type of alcohol in the house.

Does your current partner drink a lot ?
Is this the first time your son has been found to be drinking or has it been something he has done in the past ?

I feel it for you OP. This must be very difficault

all the alcohol will be emptied out of the house obviously. I did not quite see this coming. Not just alone in HIS room, though chatting with people online. Problem is Children’s services. Every time I have Contacted them regarding issues with their father they have come down heavily on me. He needs to Get away from HIS dad who has been drinking in front of them up until recently, but how?

Does his step father drink often? I’m just curious

No, husband does not drink. Only drink a few beers when the kids are not there. The occasional beer on a Saturday when the kids are present. Hence liquor cabinet full from the years before we met, and me never checking the bottles because we never touch them.
His brother told me today that he (middle kid) starter drinking left-overs at their dad’s, and recently have been drinking here too.

That’s so sad. I don’t even know what advice to give but that certainly must have been frightening to walk in and see him in that state

He seemed a lot happier lately. He is clearly not Very happy though. Schools are open here. He will miss school tomorrow. I have to miss work because he can not be left alone. How Long can he not be left alone for?
HIS brother is missing school tomorrow too because he was helping me hold/carry the howling boy into the bath, and then helped until past midnight with the puking so that the young drunk wouldn’t choke on his own vomit.
Trying to consider options. Certainly need to call dr for a referral for his mental health. Anything Else I’m not thinking of?

thats so sad. Has he done this before? Was he drinking alone of did he see friends earlier?

Please, please, please nip it in the bud. I had a friend who started drinking as a teenager and struggled with alcohol from then on. Ended up drinking himself to death before he turned 50. Such a tragic story. The earlier you can intervene, the better for you all. I'm so sorry you're going through this.