DS2 is 14. ASD and ADHD. Routine not changed with lockdown as at internet school. Intellectually gifted (predicted level 9 in maths iGCSE he has just finished) but very disorganised and generally doesn't give a toss about anything except beatsaber on V.R. atm. Huge problems with personal hygiene but compliant with enforced routines - I still have to clean his teeth with gum retractor and Oranurse toothpaste but this is par for the course. Objectively he is vulnerable as ASD does impact social skills.
But what is not par for the course or OK is that he is secretive - shuts his door when he is online, reduces or closes screens etc.
Today I borrowed back my old iPhone to take an ID photo and upload it to my old MacBook as my new phone doesn't have a USB. When I plugged his phone into my MacBook to import I could see his photos.
He had screenshot a post that was extremely disturbing. It was a supposedly manga post but the poster was saying that they are not gay (what's wrong with being gay?) but had a cock fetish and fantasised about sucking the cock of a bigger and stronger man that patted their head and called them a good boy. It screams abuse to me and I would bet describes a paedo fantasy but is pretending to come from a teenage boy.
What do I do? He relies on a certain level of technology for his schooling - I have to restrict access to screens outside of this but he always finds a work around. How do I talk to him about predatory dangers whilst sending the message that it is OK to be gay?