ADHD 19 year old son ADVICE PLS 😢

[Peachcake12]

This is the first time I’ve ever posted anything about my son, I am hoping for some advice from anyone who is or has been through it.
So my nearly 20 year old adhd/odd son is taking sertraline but still gets angry for the slightest thing and shouts and calls me names. He is now driving and has teenagers in his car just driving around all day/night being stupid and driving fast and I’m forever telling him he’s going to have an accident and hurt someone but he doesn’t listen I’ve told the police and they say there’s nothing they can do unless he’s caught!
Everyone says I should throw him out but it’s very difficult when he acts more like 15 than 19 most of the time. He thinks he’s some hard man and speaks ‘gang like’ which I hate and I’m at my wits end!
The doctor says he can go back on concerta which he out right refuses and yes I know he’s legally an adult and can do what he wants but when you know his mental state is around 4 years younger it’s very difficult.
Anyone with a child with adhd will hopefully understand how hard the situation is and can maybe give your advice please
Thank u x

I haven't had a child with ADHD but I was a child with it and I too gave my mum such a trying time.

The only advice I would like to offer is never give up on him he will likely come out the other side.

I have such a close relationship with my parents despite everything I put them through, I matured very late but I'm 36 now and a mum myself and they are proud of who I've become.

I feel really sorry and I do realise and regret it all but I was struggling to fit in and took it out on the only people who'd take it but I am totally different now mainly because I had the best parents who stood by me through thick and thin and helped me to help myself when I didn't know how and they did it by being firm and taking the no nonsense approach and I respect them for it.

Thank u, yeah I’m always the one that’s there for him or sorting out problems but it’s getting sooo stressful and tiring and is so much nicer when he stays out for the night

Would he be able to get a place in a halfway house or similar?

They said through council but he wouldn’t want to go

Well, he's 19, so you don't need to keep him in the house, you can make him go.

First thing - don't give him any money or pay for anything on his car. Don't let him use your car either. Make him pay a set amount a week from his wages. Or it's time for him to move outb