Teens & lockdown

[Applejack87]

Hi , I have one 14 year old dd and lock down is starting to have an effect on her , a group of her friends are meeting regularly and putting it up on social media
My dd is working from Google classroom during the week but this could finish between 2.30-4pm . I have tried cooking with her , teaching her life skills and explained the reason why she can’t go out we are following the Gov guide lines
I’m just wondering how you are all coping ?

She can meet 1 friend at social distance outside.

Could you arrange this with her? State you trust her to stick to this and invite the friend to yours (outside space nearby?) or maybe take them both (by foot) for a picnic somewhere. You can leave them to chat whilst you walk around.

Thankyou that’s a very good idea but shes in a group of five , & they are meeting together
I really don’t understand it . We have been isolating since the 23rd March maybe she could meet with one friend that’s not in her group 🤔

Or arrange 5 separate meetings with each member of the group.

I'm sure at 14 she can just blame mum! and explain your have said only 1. I know it's the rules but will help her socially (and I agree with you sticking to it)

Oh that's frustrating that they're meeting in a group! We're quite lucky, DS and his friends are all generally pretty sensible and have managed to work out plans so they all see each other individually- there's not a few who are seeing each other in a group, so no pressure for DS. Don't get me wrong, they can't wait until they can get together in a bigger group!

I understand the kids are having not being able to see their friends but my dd is on her phone face timing them during the day they’ve even had a movie night but she’s so envious that their parents are allowing them out in groups .

I would let her go

What did “teaching life skills entail”?
And how did that go down?!

My best friend is an a&e Doctor

Her main worry going forward is mental health of teens

I have to agree about mental but Google classroom starts again on Monday
We’ve been cooking together she made a gorgeous desert yesterday , I’ve shown her how to separate the wash and use the washing machine she’s helped me with the housework it’s been going ok but she’s desperate to get out . However from Monday lockdown is being eased off a bit with social distancing . Her friends jumped on a train today & went to the coast which was probably packed

I would've said just let her go until I read your last update OP. No way would I let my teen jump on a train and go to the coast. What are their parents thinking?

I agree it’s totally irresponsible maybe the parents don’t know this particular group have been meeting since lock down
I have been following the Gov guide lines and can’t put that at risk .

I wouldn't let my teen either. I'm not even taking him busy places yet.

I have let him cycle up and down the road with a neighbour though. We have a very long road (about a mile). I know they are social distancing because I've checked on them and also because cycling means they gave to!

Girls from DDs class have been meeting up during the day since the beginning of lockdown. I'm not sure their parents were aware, as quite a few of them have parents who are key workers, so I'm guessing they were left home alone while parents were working. Meanwhile DD hasn't seen any friends until today when she met a friend for a walk. Her mental health was suffering until she knew she was meeting up with this friend, and she's been much happier today DD now doesn't want anything to do with those girls from school.
I'm not sure DD has learned any new life skills. She could already do the basics like load the washing machine, sew on a button and cook a basic meal if she chose to. I'm not sure tie dying is a life skill, and she still can't wash a car properly even though DH paid her for doing it I could still see mud