DS struggling because he can’t see girlfriend

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I am becoming increasingly concerned about my DS16 who is getting very upset/depressed about not seeing his girlfriend. Anyone else out there in the same boat? All he’s doing is Xbox and phone. The thought of another three weeks is filling me with dread. Just sounding off really, I know you can’t wave a magical wand. 😕

The above paragraph is really meant for other situations, not a girlfriend and boyfriend missing each other and wanting to shack up for a few days as they are sad.

I hope they have plenty contraceptives for when they do finally meet up after lockdown as they could well be sexually active.

It’s easy to forget to use condoms in the heat of the moment, or pills when you feel stressed or don’t see the need considering you’re socially isolating, but they need to be taken regularly to be effective. Just saying.

Good point Elieza. My 16 year old started going out with her first boyfriend a few just before lockdown and spends her days on Snapchat and FaceTime to him. I do feel sorry for the pair of them and hate seeing her mope around, but also worry that the enforced time apart might mean that she rushes into things and becomes sexually active sooner than she might have when lockdown is lifted. I know I will have to have the TALK at some point, but am putting it off for the time being! She’s normally a sensible girl and she said a while ago that she wasn’t ready to have sex, but this pandemic has turned everything upside down. She’s filling her days watching Netflix, but has also done some crafts and cooking. Some days are better than others and she often lies in bed until lunchtime. She’s sat downstairs with the rest of family tonight for the first time in weeks watching tv, which is lovely. We’ve tried to encourage her to join in with a few family nights and done things like playing together on Nintendo Switch and an online escape room to help distract her, but with varying degrees of success.

My daughter and her boyfriend (of 18 months) are missing each other terribly. She has anxiety, and he is really sad at the moment too. It makes me mad seeing other people break the rules and meet up with others. And I look at my daughter/bf sticking by the rules and their mental health really suffering. I’d be quite happy to have him live with us for the duration of lockdown, but I think it would cause issues at his home if he didn’t choose to live there. I really hope the government make a few allowances. They seem to be suggesting it will go on until they find a vaccine, but what if they don’t find a vaccine?! It’s possible they won’t. They can’t keep elderly people locked away from their family/the world forever. And they can’t keep partners apart forever either. I worry for everyone’s mental health. My daughter has cbt weekly for her anxiety (text conversation), so she is luckier than some, but she needs physical contact. Just a hug.