Teen’s Girlfriend is in Care

[VerbenaGirl]

DD1 is 16 and has just been asked by a girl she has liked for a while to be her girlfriend. DCs friends have always been very welcome in our home and we’ve therefore got to know them, and I always anticipated that it would be the same with boyfriends and girlfriends when they came along. However, DD’s new GF is in care, lives in a children’s home, is schooled in a unit linked to this and lives in a different town (she is brought to our town twice a week to a youth club - which is where they met). I therefore don’t really know where to start. Or even whether I should be a bit worried about this.

I agree that there's nothing for you to arrange - she's 16 and surely if DD needs a lift or asks if GF can come over, you just handle it the way you would if it were any other girlfriend?

I think you're jumping ahead a bit to be worrying about logistics - you're not adopting her!

Just take your lead from DD and see how it goes.

@MissMarks you’re right ex foster carer here I would not be encouraging this and I wonder if it’s a secure setting ?

Yes was thinking the same. Very sad.

Hi yes MissMarks has a very good point. I would strongly encourage DD away. I work with children who have been in care and this is a situation you should be more wary of.