pre-existing mental health issues + isolation and no school

[TeenPlusTwenties]

DD, 15, (y10) has been struggling for a while and we only realised how low she was just after half term. We had just started getting counselling and putting things in place at school.

Now she's off, she's slumped, and I don't know what is best to help her.

The counsellor (by phone now) cheered her up and recommended stuff like keep busy, sandwich treats between the have to dos, that kind of thing. Next day and she doesn't want to do anything …

I don't know how much to just let it go, and how much to push.

We're much further down the line but in a similar situation. I don't push, I gently coerce - have a very avoidant and stubborn teen (part of the illness - heightened fear = self preservation and that's why we always get a no first).

We are doing daily sunshine for at least 10 minutes and I'm trying to do one thing per day with them.

I think you need to watch and wait and gently suggest stuff.

Our house is calmer since we relaxed a lot of rules and regimes - but being mindful of food, drink, fresh air and asking what they would like to do/be done.

Good luck to you, you are not alone.

NotBeingFunnyOrAnything your DC sounds similar to mine. My DD17 is avoidant and stubborn. I'm finding it especially hard to motivate her at the moment. Especially when I'm the cause of how she is feeling by suggesting that she goes outside etc any advice gratefully received...

How are your kids doing?@sandwiches77 and @TeenPlusTwenties

Thanks for asking.
So-so is the answer here.
Managing 30-60mins light schoolwork max (eg no English happening).

As she gets more tired as the day goes on, the more questions I get 'does it matter I touched then my hair?'. I've had about 3 this morning, but it will likely go up to 5-10 per hour by bedtime.

We went for a walk yesterday. A jogger came up silently from behind and went past right next to us. Totally unnecessary as there was an empty road he could have swerved into. Sent DD's stress levels right up.