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What age?

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Lifesnotapicnic · 09/03/2020 21:39

Would you leave you kids alone for night or weekend ? My ds will be month off 17 but he dont want to go away with us for 3 nights :/ he quite sensible but dont know if still too young to be alone for 72 hours . Even worried about a night only cause I'm a worrier lol

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sprinklemagicinmyhair · 09/03/2020 21:41

Think less about age and more about competence.

Chocolatecake12 · 09/03/2020 21:43

I left my ds age 17 for a week last summer. I thought he’d at least have a party and I trusted him and his friends - they’re all good ‘kids’
Anyway - no party!! He cooked, kept the place nice, kept the pets alive and really surprised me!
I’m a worrier too but sometimes you have to just let it happen.....
How long away is the trip? Could you leave him for one night first?

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Lifesnotapicnic · 09/03/2020 21:43

I literally just dont think I'd enjoy it my self to be honest I'd be worried all night , think might offer for his mate to come away with us hopefully that gets a yes lol

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Lifesnotapicnic · 09/03/2020 21:44

Friday to monday. Yea maybe start with night

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Frankiecandle · 09/03/2020 21:45

I'd quite happily leave a sensible 17 year old.

Mamato2gorgeousboys · 09/03/2020 21:46

I would say 13/14 for 1 night but 16 for 3. As long as they can be trusted to not throw a massive party that will get out of hand.

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Lifesnotapicnic · 09/03/2020 21:47

He really is sensible to be honest I just dont know if I'm ready to leave him yet lol

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Lifesnotapicnic · 09/03/2020 21:48

Yea I'm not worried about party etc most he would do is have me telly really loud if couple mates was here lol

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Mamato2gorgeousboys · 09/03/2020 23:10

I would say go for it. If he’s 17 already, in less than a year he can legally vote and get married. I’m sure he’ll be fine alone for a few days. Enjoy your break 😁

Lynda07 · 09/03/2020 23:42

He's old enough to be left and as you say, he 'don't' want to with you anyway.

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Lifesnotapicnic · 09/03/2020 23:59

I'm gonna try the mate offer cause I do get he dont wanna go with old uns ( as he calls us lol) if that no still then il do night first see how goes

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NCTDN · 12/03/2020 21:32

13/14 for one night?Shock I wouldn't leave ds yet. DD is 16 and is leave her for one night but no longer.

DoubleAction · 12/03/2020 21:41

I think it mostly depends on his friends. A 16/17 yo will be fine on his own but it depends who else might be there and how much influence they all have on each other.

ItWasntMyFault · 12/03/2020 21:43

I've left my 16 yr old ds for a couple of nights. He loved it.

Pipandmum · 12/03/2020 21:57

I've left my 16 year old for a night with strict instructions that only his girlfriend or best mate could come over. We have dogs so needed someone to stay.
My fear would be a party - I've been burned before by older child! Word gets put on social media that parents are absent and the whole world shows up.

YukoandHiro · 12/03/2020 22:01

He will have a party. But if you trust him, he'll clean up properly too.

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Lifesnotapicnic · 12/03/2020 22:54

Yh he knows I'm quite strict as who allowed in house because my dog if he got out front door, I wouldnt see him again he dont listen if u shout him to come bk . So I know he wouldnt have party he not that sort kid anyway only got few close mates but I still would worry about him being here alone . Think hard doing it for first time cause at moment latest I've been gone is up to 11pm .

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