Suicidal thoughts, depression, anxiety - 15 yr daughter

[Toscanamamma]

We have been struggling with our daughter's depression for over 2 years. I have found more than 10 suicide notes and evidence of self harm over this time, She has scars on her thighs from cutting and self medicates with smoking. She has seen a psychologist, been assessed for ADHD and other learning issues. She just drifts off, has no short term memory and can switch from happy to desolate in seconds. More recently she has asked me for help, we have been to a psychiatrist who confirms depression and anxiety and prescribed drugs which we are starting today. She is very low as has a leg in plaster (broken ankle) and the schools are closed for 10 days here as a prevention for Coronovirus. I am looking for some ways of boosting her self esteem, feelings of worthiness and general well-being. I would love some suggestions with a 'feel-good' factor to support her therapy. It is tricky as she has little interest in things at the moment, she is also very sensitive to food related experiences as struggles with her self image and eating. Thinks she is fat, she is stick thin and stunning by the way.

I'm starting with an amazon shop for books and films and maybe a manicure, but these things seem shallow to be honest. Please do share any thoughts on boosting her positivity through her therapy.
Thanks x

poor you, poor her, it's really tough, sending hugs ! Hurrah for meds ! You probably won't notice much difference for a while, but if she's on the 'right ones' it will be worth it, and in a few weeks time she may be more open to your suggestions of positive / enjoyable things to do. From personal experience, when dd was at lowest, box sets, usually comedy, just got her through the day, and it often seemed like we / she was just treading water until she might start feeling better. And gradually she has done and is able to do things for herself to feel a bit better. If she can access DBT therapy in your area, through camhs, it's a fantastic help for reducing self harm & suicidal ideation. And/or you can find lots online - google DBT - especially youtubes of Marsha Linehan (DBT founder). Good luck. Unfortunately you are very much not alone - more and more of us in this same shitty boat. But there is help and support out there and you will get through it.

Her asking for help is good, such a hard thing for a teenager to do...I hope she knows you are proud of her for that

No real advice though, keep trying, talking, loving

also see 'child mental health' threads

Thinks she is fat, she is stick thin and stunning by the way.
Concerns me, is she eating?

I know you said she had been seen by a psychologist and psychiatrist for assessment and diagnosis but have you considered a therapist who specialises in young people/teenagers? A few sessions with someone like that could help (I know this is an obvious thing to say but it's important to get one with the right qualifications, who's accredited).

Young Minds Charity May be able to help?

2 things come to mind - something creative or something to do with animals.

Is she creative? Does she like painting? Or maybe something like knitting or sewing. (My dd with depression and anxiety likes to knit because of its repetitive nature and because it gives her a sense of achievement)

Animal wise could she help out at a shelter, walk the neighbours dog? Something that gives her responsibility for another living being. Stables are also great environment.

So sorry to hear all you have gone through. Sending love to you and your daughter. Baking and cooking together has often helped my daughter when she’s been low. Putting her phone away and concentrating on creating something really helps.