I'm bunging in some paragraphs to help, though they may not be in the right places:
Ok, I have a step daughter I love very much, she’s not had it easy with her mum she clings to me a bit and pushes me away a bit but she’s not 15 nearly 16... we haven’t seen eye to eye in a long time and I blame that on the lack of parenting.... I always thought step kids were supposed to be a nightmare but this girl just lashes out because she’s been hurt... she’s suffered and she’s lost, and I could write a million things that have happened to her,
I separated from her father and I don’t live with her but we’re in mediation, I feel this has really hurt her and created an unstable environment but I refused to accept her brother couldn’t help being violent, I couldn’t condone it and so I moved to a safer place and alerted all authorities... they’re pretty well known to social care and the police,
my issue is, I’ve been informed my step daughter has a £40 drug debt and is being threatened by the dealer... her dad has said if the guy comes to the house he will wrong his neck but I know her dad has previously not batted an eye lid when she was hurt by her brother and that was pretty vicious I fitted a Yale lock to her door because he woke her up with an electric dog collar because neither parent saw it fit to separate them, and all that happened was the dad drove to pick the brother and his mates up in the following weeks - one of which I explicitly banned for robbing money from her dad and they kicked her door off while I was at work, so, because she liked me her mother was quite cruel and because her dad favours his son that became cruel on her too, the brother never had any consequences and
the daughter well she’s stopped self harming and she’s now doing ok at school, she’s got a violent temperament and she s admitted she’s addicted to weed, with the lack of care around her I don’t know what to do, if I raise it to social care - they won’t do anything they didn’t do anything when her brother was violent and she didn’t want to speak up, she’s quite wayward now but she wasn’t always...
so she has a criminal record for Several counts of theft, violence, and is known to social services and the police... she got kicked out of school and put in a reform school... and she s on track there and will get i to college, she’s emotionally unstable and I feel she’s in danger about this debt,
I don’t agree that she was taking drugs but I don’t understand why it wasn’t prevented, I have on previous occasions removed myself because the children have been allowed to drink and smoke from as young as 12 with parental consent and I hung in my marriage for way more years than I wanted to because I’ve bonded with this child. I couldn’t leave her and yet I did... I feel incredibly guilty ... in the same breathe I reported every single incident for 4 years - the police have done nothing neither have social care because she denies what has happened or is happening and very early on social services insisted my opinions weren’t valid even though her brother was admitted to psychiatric care from the age of 5 for violent tendencies... the girl thought she’s popped her cherry because he kicked her so hard in her privates when she was 6 she felt she was broken... she was stabbed in the eye with a fork younger than that and her brother even broke a kids collar bone at school which he bragged about but it was classed as an accident...
so her history is troubled... but right now... she is a 15 year old girl prone to self harm addicted to drugs with a dealer debt hanging over her .... I’m not her parent, I don’t know what to do... I’m also aware she is in her gcse year and I don’t want to disrupt her life...
since her brother has moved away with his mum she has coped so much better... Though she does have aggression towards her dad... she became aggressive towards me last year because I left her and she felt abandoned and that was enough for me to back off because she’s not afraid to pick up knives...- which sounds awful unless u know how badly she’s been hurt, so my step daughter hasn’t told me this.... her dad has....
I understand why she backs everyone off but I have no clue how to help her... and I’m scared doing anything at all might move her from the only good thing I feel she has.. her school.. and plus the change if she is looked into is coming so late- I reported problems when she was 10 ... I don’t understand how she has been so majorly overlooked...and I don’t know what to do now... she’s acc had so many police reports in against her I don’t see the police seeing her as a victim either... I don’t think social services care at all... and I know she’s under threat... it’s keeping me awake she or someone will get hurt...