It's been a tough few weeks. 15yr old dd has anxiety and has recently started then stopped smoking so mood swings were expected. We were on hols last week and she was ok some parts but some episodes of absolute vileness that impacted on us all.
This week back to school and it's been pretty much the same. She's deliberately late, doesn't do her homework and doesnt care!! Thurs morning I took her to school and she was sobbing saying her anxiety was so bad and begging for me not to make her go. I ended up driving back home and she went in later when she calmed down.
Yesterday she did the same. Was ok until arriving at school then turned on the tears and said she can't go in. The head was there and saw her and took her in. School are fantastic with her. All pastoral staff know her well and there is several calm places she can work out of lessons. I was in contact with head of year and she said she was ok and working alone.
After school dd would not speak to me and last night exploded saying how awful I was to force her to go to school etc etc and that I dont give a shit about her mental health.
Of course I naturally feel guilty but at the same time I can't see how letting her stay off school everytime she is upset can work? She is Yr 11 and has mocks next week. School obviously want her there and look after her best they can. For the record she's had counselling, camhs several times and nothing helps.
Did I deal with it wrong? What would other parents do? You can be honest!