Teen Parties

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My daughter is turning 15 (y10) and wants a houseparty - we'll hide upstairs, but now we are questioning whether or not alcohol should be allowed - its invitees only and my 17 year old son will act as bouncer - her friends are generally responsible so we were thinking cider/WKD's/punch ? not a lot and confiscate vodka or anything stronger. Also finishing times? She's begging for 1am or something similar but we think unwise to end after midnight, let me know your thoughts.

I would raise it with the other parents, work it out with them. DD was at her friend's house and it was arranged that the mum would hold the booze and monitor consumption. However, one girl did smuggle in vodka, which was ridiculous, as they were all allowed to have a drink if they wanted to.

My daughter is 15 and does not drink, has never had a drink. She doesn't attend parties these days, but if she did I would be annoyed if parents provided alcohol.

I do know tons of parents this year who think differently and there are plenty of parties where this does happen so you wouldn't be on your own if you chose this route.

My ds is going to parties in y11 where there is sometimes alcohol, we talked about to extensively beforehand. But if she's y10 you're going to have some 14 year olds there too. I wouldn't have let my y10 go to a party with booze. I just think it's too young.

My dd has had small parties at home (up to 15 guests) from age 15. We have always stayed in the house but kept distant (I would occasionally go downstairs to get something from the fridge to remind them I was present but I wouldn’t stop to chat). From the first party the kids asked if alcohol was allowed and I said yes, only a small amount, as long as they brought it with them and it was ok with their parents). I didn’t provide alcohol myself until they were 17 as I didn’t want to be responsible for giving alcohol to kids whose parents may have not wanted them to have some.
I don’t know if I’ve just been lucky but the kids have always been fine. They swear and shout and sing loudly and laugh a lot. When they were 15 the alcohol seemed like a treat but they never had too much, probably because their parents were picking them up at 11pm! I have heard of parties getting very out of hand but I think I’m those cases there were no parents around so uninvited older kids turned up.