Teenagers and moving

[Olivia4275]

I have been with my partner for 2 years now but we live 1.5 hours apart. I am finding the distance really difficult as we both have children ranging from 10-16. His home town and middle ground is only 45 mins from me. We are talking about him moving there and taking his kids to the school they are at now (he has them 50% of the time) which would be the same length of time in the car as they spend now on the school bus. He is excited about the move as it is the town he grew up in, his business (estate agency) would thrive there as he knows so many people, but his eldest 15 year old daughter is refusing to move and he is feeling emotionally torn. Although there daughters would still be spending 50% of the time in their town with their mum and friends and staying at the same school the eldest will not budge. I am obviously biased as I would be 45 mins nearer to him but just need other people’s opinions on this. Thanks so much

Is it fair that the 15 year old would spend half their time in a town with no friends around? Difficult age to make new friends. Is there excellent, frequent public transport between the two towns?

She's looking at spending 50% of her time in a city away from all her friends, which is the most important thing at that age. I can see why she's upset.

I forgot to mention their grandparents and cousin lives in the town they would be moving to

Is he really going to do a school run round trip of 90 minutes twice a day as well as running a business? Or have I misunderstood that. Do his children have after school activities in their current town? It sounds like a bit of a logistical nightmare.

A lot of work is on the phone and he doesn’t have an issue with this as he has access to a free office in his kids school town, the issue is his daughter

Also this would be 2 days a week

I think you need to seriously consider that him moving will mean his oldest daughter stops coming to stay.

Are the weekends likely to be a problem too, presumably it will make it much harder for her to meet friends. Unfortunately I don't think either of you are being unreasonable. Would having him 45 minutes away from you instead of 90 make that big a difference?