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Prom after party

9 replies

Poppyanddaisy55 · 24/02/2020 14:41

Any ideas? Dd has asked for a party at home but it's not practical due to younger brother with school in the morning and a 7am work start for me.
I'm guessing no one really wants to host teens who can be wild and maybe a bit drunk!
Any ideas of a fairly sensible alternative?!

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mcmen05 · 24/02/2020 22:43

Yes tell her to go to a party at someone else's house 😀

lots33 · 24/02/2020 22:56

Parents clubbed together and hired a cheap farmers field and gazebo here. In the middle of nowhere.

(My kids are too young for that atm, thank goodness!)

carlyclock · 24/02/2020 23:00

DD and most of her year went clubbing after prom (a few exceptions by age of course) then back to the hotel the prom had been held at to hang out in each other's rooms eating pizza Grin

Rainingdogsandcats · 24/02/2020 23:09

We hosted the after prom for our D's last year. It coincided with his 16th.

We hired a massive marquee with dance floor, a proper DJ, straw bales for seating , porta loos so no-one had to come in the house.

We had elder D's (22) and 2 of his mates in high vis coats wandering around. They used their cars to block the drive so no-one could come in unseen.

We charged the kids a tenner each and ticked off names as they paid before the event. It was smart dress. You could pay on the door if your name was on the list. ( The whole of year 11). We funded the other £500.

We allowed them to bring tents earlier in the day if they wanted to stay over. No sleeping in the marquee.

We had around 120/30 youngsters here and they all got very drunk. At 3am I made bacon rolls for everyone and took them out. The kids were very grateful.

We did have some kids trying to get into the house, but D's and his mates sorted them out quickly. We ordered taxis for those unable to remember their own names and made sure they got home safely.

We had some gatecrashers from another school that got past our security by paying on the door and knowing the right names. About 5 lads. Just before they left at 4.30am they trashed a load of plants outside of our summer house, tipped up tables in the marquee and smashed up some decking, threw some chairs into the field next to us. By the time we realised they'd run off. Of course no-one knew who they were 🤔 sure they didn't.

We didn't provide any alcohol except 4 Smirnoff ice for our D's. We provided loads of soft drinks and crisps etc.

As I cleaned up the next day I was shocked by the amount of spirit bottles and the amount of gas canisters. 😟

The other thing was although I provided my phone number to every child, only about 3 parents rang or contacted me to see where their teen DC was going at 11pm until 4 am the following day. Most kids turned up in cabs straight from the prom.

Hope that helps.

shinynewapple2020 · 25/02/2020 08:12

Assuming the prom is a weekday rather than a Friday? Could you offer to host a small gathering of his best friends, maybe take the day off work the following day? And perhaps the younger brother could stay at a friend's for the night?

We were lucky in that DS best friend lives in a quite large property but they are not particularly house proud and the whole family enjoy hosting parties so that was the ideal venue for the party and sleepover of a smaller group.

Poppyanddaisy55 · 25/02/2020 12:20

Raining that sounds like my hell!! I do not want to be responsible for other drunken teenagers. My own will be bad enough haha. The prom is a Thurs night. Im wondering now whether it might be better to organise something the night after on Fri? We could join in then haha.
Her friendship group are a bit wild that's all. She went to a house party a month ago and was falling drunk all over the place. I ended up walking her home as it coincided with me coming home from a night out. She was worse than I was!!

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sandscript · 25/02/2020 12:42

@Rainingdogsandcats off topic, but you sound like the coolest mum! Smile

Rainingdogsandcats · 25/02/2020 12:48

sandscript I did earn myself some brownie points for the after prom to be fair.

I enjoy organising parties, we have the space and apart from the pillocks at the end it was great fun.

LynetteScavo · 27/02/2020 17:11

There were several small after parties after DSs prom. I shall forever be grateful to the lovely parents who hosted The one DS artender. They had a younger child and and went to work the next day. Apart from late night trampolining it didn't seem to get too wild.

I would take the next day off work and host DDs if we lived anywhere near the prom venue/school but were miles out if the way and it will be inconvenient for everybody else.

I would rather have tippsy teens at mine than my DD off her face in a field far away. But apparently I'm a control freak.

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