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Worried about teenager constantly out and eating junk food, missing meals etc. He has his own money from birthday/Christmas which he is spending but all this week he has had one meal at home. He's been buying junk food, sweets and fizzy drinks everyday as I've been finding it in the bin. Taking food from the cupboards crisps, biscuits etc. He's going out and I've asked him to have breakfast and lunch before he goes and he's kicking off massively. Hes punched his door and wardrobe and just telling us he hates wishes we were dead etc. I just want him have one decent meal. All week I've been picking him up from his gf's and yet we do nothing for him. He is just being so I inreasonable.

When he goes to school he refuses breakfast. I give him packed lunch and top his account for extras but I've since found all his packed lunch in the bin or bottom of the bag.

Needs a reality talk.

As you get older, you need to take responsibility for your own decisions and the impact they have etc etc etc.

He gets a choice, either money on the school account, or a pack-up, and make it clear that you making his lunch is a privilege, not a god-given right. If you can see the school account (we can see everything) make it clear that if its rubbish every day, then that illustrates porr decision making, and it will be taken out of his hands.

As for the christmas money - that's his, but make it clear that once its gone, its gone.

How old is he?

How old is he? My DS2 was like this when he was 14/15. Food was a really battle at one point, so I know how you feel. He wouldn't listen to me. Then he got really ill and we found out he had a massive iron and B12 deficiency. That seemed to give him a wake up call. He's the compete opposite now, always at the gym, eats really healthily.

What's he doing when he's out all the time, who is putting up with him instead?

Thanks for the replies he is normally with friends or gf. He is fussy with food anyway so prob won't have tea at gf or friends unless it's pizza or something. If he has school dinners he buys rubbish like pizza, muffins, cakes etc. At home I try and ensure he as a healthier diet so slag bol, jacket potatoes etc but he wouldn't buy these out of choice. It's the skipping meals and junk food that's worrying me when he goes to the toilet he absolutely stinks so it's not good and I've told him the risks of obesity, tooth decay and bowel cancer. Not to mention he's wasted money his birthday isn't until October.

*spag bol even 😬

Hello,

Do you have a good relationship with his gf? Could she be the answer to your problems? Maybe if she was making healthy choices he will too? Had the same problem with my DD last year and in the end she just grew out of it :)

Like feck is it his girlfriend‘s problem to sort! Cold hard reality check needed, methinks.