How do you now they'll come back to liking you again?

[pasanda]

Crying here. Yet another argument with dd16 about nothing.

The scathing looks, the roll of eyes, the ingratitude of everything and the sheer unfriendliness

I know it's normal but when you feel so hated for just being you, how do you know they'll ever like you again?

Normally I ride it out, ignore it, take it but tonight I'm so sad that I get any of this.

It just feels like she'll never like me again and we used to be so close

Oh dear I don’t have teenagers yet but I just feel for you.

I really really do think it’s very common for people to be total spiteful twats to their parents and then later grow close again. It can be a dark tunnel but it ends.

Look after yourself

No idea sorry as mine are slightly younger. Totally feel for you though, some light at the end of the tunnel would be nice wouldn’t it

Oh lass, I am blatantly place marking. I remember that chubby wee boy who thought the sun rose and set with me and now just thinks I'm shite on his shoe.

It's so hard, isn't it?

It's shite but massively normal! We've all be then done that as either the 'teen', or riding out the storm as the parent. My teen moved out of home at 17 (as independent person don't you know?!), rang up crying 1 week later stating they were a 'victimised young person of society, and could they bring home their washing?' 😂 I informed them I'd notify the media of their plight, and maybe we could start a fundraiser.

They will. She still loves you now. You get ALL the shit precisely because she does. It will be ok. Dd is nearly 18 and has hurt me so much, but I can see the tiny tiny bit of light at the end of the tunnel now.
Keep the faith.

Side note - 'independent teen' moved back home another 2wks after that (and yes I had done their washing 🙄). At 21 they're now most definately moved out, doing their own laundry, and we're very close again. It's a life cycle! We all need to go through the 'you're not the boss of me' stage, to reach the 'I'm the boss of me' conclusion. Just hang on in there.

Thanks. Pity party over (for now!). Back to being strong.

I just get this feeling that although I know she loves me underneath it all, it's the apparent dislike of me for totally mundane things I do or comments I make. It is so true that sometimes the way you even breathe is wrong!

It gets better. The rows decrease partly because they get more mature and partly because we allow them to grow up so less trigger points (eg curfews etc) I now get on very well with mine at 19&21, been on holiday with the 3 of us and it's lovely now - very different to a child relationship mind you, we had cocktails last night out.

Check out this thread, you are not alone 💐

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/teenagers/3816762-Thread-Four-Holding-on-to-the-end-of-the-rope

I was like this with my mom when I was a teen, flash forward 10 years and she's my absolute best friend and I love her to pieces. Them teenage hormones are a real bitch!

My dn was the epitome of a difficult teen.
Aged 15 she got drunk so her df and dm said she couldn't go to friends and needed to sleep it off. She called the police to say her df was assaulting her, he worked with children so not a minor thing.
My own two have had their moments. I walked out once for an hour as they were being so awful, when I got back they hadn't even noticed!
They're both lovely adults now.

It does pass thou it seems like it never will at the time . My dd18 and I have a lovely relationship now but when she was 14-16 she was hard work at times, she could literally change her attitude from one 10 minutes to the next and bad moods were always taken out on me. I would say don't rise to arguments and have one on one time with her.

This is me😕. Mines 13. The other day she came home from school, banged the door, dumped her bag and stomped to the doorway of the room where l was quietly sitting. She glared at me, and stamped upstairs. I hadn’t actually done anything.

Options: I’m not doing THAT subject, because you did it. You just want me to do it. Disclaimer l’dnever said anything.

I give up😭

I can't take it that personally for very long, they are reacting to a person in a certain role that impedes them in a certain way.