What time does your 14 year old have to be home?

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Just that really. On school nights.

DS has a newish group of friends and they hang out together at one or others houses after school. Most of them are staying until about 8 o’clock. I’m not sure if it’s reasonable to say that DS has to be home earlier at least some nights because of homework etc. He thinks we are being totally unreasonable.

I think you are being totally reasonable.

My 12 year old stays out until 8ish but only a few nights a week. 8 every night is too much in my opinion.

On a school night mine were never out unless it was football or a running club.

I think 8 is reasonable I used to have to be in at 10

I think 8 is fine some nights but not every night. What about homework, revision, touching base with parents etc?

My 14yo is out that late weekly for extracurriculars, but I wouldn't want him at friends' houses until 8 every night.

But then I was out every night and never did homework so something was clearly wrong😂

On a school night I'd say 7 unless a special occasion (also are they getting dinner when out?). My kids rarely went out on a week night - school gets out at 4.30 and they had music or sport commitments on some nights.

Mine is generally only allowed out on school nights (Sun to Thurs) for extra curricular activities (which she has on two or three nights) or family/church events. If, on the odd occasion, she wants to go out socialising (e.g. Starbucks!), she has to be home within two hours of normal school finishing time.

Dd has just turned 15, at the weekends she is out til maybe 9, but in the week on a school night I like her home for dinner. She isn’t really allowed out on a school night due to homework etc but she’s happy with that. She’s a social butterfly come the weekend. If it’s a special occasion like a birthday or something then that’s different during the week. She usually comes straight home from school or she may pop in to town with mates l, sometimes they will have maccies for dinner and be home by 7, but that’s quite rare

On a school night ds14 has to be home at 6.30 for dinner, and he's not allowed out every night. What is your dc eating? When do they do homework?
For me family mealtimes are really important as that's when we catch up before the teenager disappears into his pit.
In the summer holidays we were a bit more flexible, and at the weekend if he's eating at a friend's house he can be out later, obviously.

Dd1 just turned 15 doesn’t really have a time. This is due to the fact that she has a lot of clubs most nights of the week and doesn’t really go out during the week. If she does then she’ll normally be home around 8.30 on a school night, but this is fine as it’s not that often.

At the weekends it’s whenever, no set time really.

Dd2 who’s nearly 12 is more of a social butterfly and spends more time with friends than her sister. She is normally with friends until around 8 a few nights a week. She’s only year 7 and doesn’t as yet have loads of home work though.

My DS 14 has to be in at 10pm, but he’s at his gf house and is then collected so I know he’s safe